Linda_K
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posted on August 10, 2003 11:15:03 PM new
He passed away within a week of my last post here. 
Took a turn for the worse while we were in our holding pattern...emergency trip to the hospital...another cancer was found..in his esophagus and within a week he was gone.
He's always been the love of my life, for 41 years....and I struggle every day without him.
I was so very blessed in my life with him. He was a wonderful man and I was very lucky to have him in my life as long as I did. He didn't suffer and for that I am forever grateful to God.
Now I must start a new life. I'm attending grief counseling classes and they help me a lot. The pain of his loss will forever break my heart. But I do my best to stay focused on the positive.
Thanks so much for asking. I wish you were here more often, I do miss you.
[ edited by Linda_K on Aug 11, 2003 12:12 AM ]
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KatyD
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posted on August 10, 2003 11:26:42 PM new
Oh I'm so terribly sorry to hear that, Linda! You have my prayers and best wishes in making a new life without him. 41 years is a lifetime! I know you must be traveling a hard and lonely road right now.
Email me whenever you get a chance:
[email protected]
KatyD
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rawbunzel
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posted on August 10, 2003 11:38:45 PM new
I am sincerely sorry Linda.I've never experienced a loss to compare to yours but can imagine the pain must be intense.
41 years.Such a gift to have been able to be with someone you love for such a long time.
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Linda_K
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posted on August 11, 2003 12:06:40 AM new
Thank you both very much. I appreciate your compassion.
Katy - I'll email. Thanks.
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fenix03
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posted on August 11, 2003 01:13:17 AM new
Linda, I am so very sorry for your loss and honestly at a loss for much else to say that won't sound trite. You are in my thoughts though and I am glad that you have been able to find the strength to return to us and this little madhouse.
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CBlev65252
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posted on August 11, 2003 04:13:15 AM new
And I thought it was hard for me after 20 years of marriage. I know your pain, Linda. It does get easier, but it doesn't go completely away. It just changes to a different kind of pain. I didn't think I could learn to go on, but I did mainly because I knew that's what he would have wanted. Immerse yourself in those around you who truly love you. Also remember to take time to be alone to grieve. That's very important. And, talk to him. . .he hears you. It's been since 1999 for me and some days it seems like yesterday.
Blessings you to you, Linda.
Cheryl
Power to the people. Power to the people, right on. - John Lennon
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Twelvepole
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posted on August 11, 2003 05:22:30 AM new
My sympathies Linda....
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Helenjw
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posted on August 11, 2003 05:59:07 AM new
I suppose we'll have to let you go unopposed for a couple of days.
Linda, I'm sincerely sorry about your loss.
Helen
typo ed.
[ edited by Helenjw on Aug 11, 2003 11:43 AM ]
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colin
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posted on August 11, 2003 07:09:50 AM new
Sympathies and Condolences. I've sure you know my prayers are with you and yours.
Amen,
Reverend Colin
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kraftdinner
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posted on August 11, 2003 10:32:17 AM new
Somehow I knew Linda. I'm so very sorry.
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ebayauctionguy
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posted on August 11, 2003 01:19:48 PM new
My condolences, Linda.
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Roadsmith
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posted on August 11, 2003 08:35:02 PM new
And I'm awfully sorry to hear this news, too, Linda. Take the time to mourn; none of those steps can be skipped. Bless you.
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stockticker
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posted on August 11, 2003 09:33:36 PM new
I'm so sorry, Linda...
Irene
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wgm
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posted on August 12, 2003 08:32:29 AM new
Linda, I am so very sorry for your loss. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
May warm and loving memories comfort you...
"Be kind. Remember everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle."  - Harry Thompson
"I have neither the time nor the inclination to explain myself to a man who rises and sleeps under the blanket of the very freedom I provide and then questions the manner in which I provide it." - A Few Good Men
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gina50
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posted on August 12, 2003 10:05:04 AM new
Linda I am so very sorry to hear of your loss.
Sincerely,
Gina
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Linda_K
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posted on August 13, 2003 09:03:56 AM new
Thanks to each and everyone of you who have shared their sympathies, condolences and words of comfort. It means a lot to me.
KatyD - Yes, it is a hard and lonely road. I'm very fortunate to have a very supportive family and group of friends that bring a lot of comfort and joy to my life.
rawbunzel - Yes, I was very lucky. It was a wonderful gift and I always was aware of that fact. Some people never do have the gift of loving and being loved by someone like I was.
fenix - Words are always hard at times like this, I understand. I appreciate your sadness for my loss.
[on our little madhouse]...It's always been a good distraction for me and a way of getting my thoughts on a different subject.
Cheryl - Yes, know you do understand....walked in the same shoes and all. "I didn't think I could go on"... Yes, that's where my group helps. There are many that didn't think they could, but did. It offers hope for those of us just heading down this path. I do talk to him...all the time. Now, if he ever answers back....  Thank you for sharing your journey down this road.
twelvepole - You'll never know how often you bring a chuckle or laugh into my day. Thank you
helen - I've said before that I wouldn't want what I'm going through to in any way affect how people treat me when I post opposing views. But thank you too.
colin - I do know that...thank you.
kraftdinner - Sorry I couldn't answer you before when you asked...somedays it's just easier to deal with than others.
ebayauctionguy - Thank you.
roadsmith - [mourning and steps] That's why I joined the grieving group...they impress the importance working through this process to end up in a better place emotionally. Thank you
stockticker - Wish I saw that userid here more often. Hope all is well in your retirement.
wgm - The warm and loving memories do bring a lot of comfort to me...thank you.
gina - Thank you too
wrightsracing/Terrilee - Thanks for those hugs....hugs are always wonderful. And yes, I cry and scream and feel sorry for myself that I have lost my best friend. Then I remind myself how fortunate I have been and the emotional roller coaster you spoke of before continues.
I really do appreciate all the support I've received from all of you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Linda
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Helenjw
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posted on August 13, 2003 09:26:58 AM new
Linda,
My remark was an attempt at a little levity which I am sure that you know.
It's good to know that you are getting along so well!
Peace,
Helen
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clarksville
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posted on August 13, 2003 09:51:57 AM new
Linda you are in my thought and prayers.
Sorry, about not posting before this. I just found it. haven't been hanging around here lately. I just have been posting and leaving, not bothering to read much.
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Linda_K
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posted on August 13, 2003 10:05:36 AM new
Helen - Yes, that's the way I took your post. Sorry if my response came across in a way other than I had intended.
Thanks clarksville, they are appreciated.
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chococake
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posted on August 13, 2003 12:22:12 PM new
Katy, I was just told of the loss of your husband. I'm so very sorry. You had 41 years together, and so many memories. I wish you could have had more. Take care of yourself.
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Linda_K
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posted on August 13, 2003 12:36:50 PM new
chococake - Would you still feel the same if it were me, rather than Katy that lost her husband? [teasing here as you've pulled a Linda].
Katy didn't lose her husband....that I'm aware of. It was my loss. I sure hope KatyD's husband is okay.
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chococake
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posted on August 13, 2003 01:05:10 PM new
Linda, I'm sorry about the wrong name. I was just typing away and not thinking when I realized what I did I tried to edit but kept getting script errors. I'm sorry,
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Linda_K
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posted on August 13, 2003 01:08:19 PM new
No need to be sorry at all...we've all done the same thing.
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snowyegret
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posted on August 13, 2003 04:30:17 PM new
LindaK, I'm so sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you and your family.
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rawbunzel
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posted on August 13, 2003 07:07:12 PM new
Linda,Femme has asked that I add her condolences here.
She is unable to post here due to stubborness.
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davebraun
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posted on August 13, 2003 08:06:52 PM new
My condolences, Linda.
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NearTheSea
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posted on August 13, 2003 09:23:31 PM new
Linda, I am so sorry to hear this. 41 years is a long time.
I read here awhile back something was wrong, logged on today, and this was the first thread here.
I believe the greif counseling is a good thing.
I know it is tough, it will lessen, and he will always be in your heart and memories.
Peace
Art Bell Retired! George Noory is on late night coasttocoastam.com
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Linda_K
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posted on August 14, 2003 11:49:19 AM new
Thank you also snowyegret and davebraun
I appreciate your posts.
NearTheSea - Thanks sweetie. Such a shock going from thinking we were dealing with a gall bladder attack to him dying a little more than two months later. Life can change so quickly. So...give Mike lots of TLC.
rawbunzel - Thanks for relaying Femme's message to me. LOL @ stubborn...naw....I think she's just holding to her principles. Thanks Femme, I appreciate your post via rawbunzel.
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aposter
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posted on August 15, 2003 05:23:56 AM new
Can't imagine being married 41 years.
I am just reading this now and not sure why since it wasn't addressed to me. I don't come into these threads to read or post much any more.
I am sorry about your husband.
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