posted on July 31, 2000 11:39:12 PM
You know Sarge before you got nasty I was going to answer your questions in a very complimentary way.
Now, you don't deserve an answer. Out of respect, that you don't deserve, I tried to delete my first post because it bothered me that my friend's memory was being besmirched by you. Yes, by you. You took my grief and turned it into something ugly. I was writing with emotion and maybe I shouldn't have said some of the things I said but they were said out of love not spite as you would have it.
I now ask the Moderator to delete it, please.
You have been snotty with me since the first thread in which I asked opinions about what my son should do with his life and in the process insulting him and me. I ignored that.
I write about my feelings because writing about my feelings not only helps me but helps others to express themselves.
The people who know me know that I am an honest and open (maybe too open)person.As you told me once I am naive. I do not believe in or practice duplicity or snide insults and I would appreciate it if you would just take your vindictive nature and solve some crimes.
No, I will not answer your stupid questions because you are taking things out of context and trying to turn them to your advantage such as the nurse thing. Evidently you have never had an old person in the hospital. Veins are impossible to find as many on here will attest and when they are found it very hard to keep the needle in because of the parchment like skin. It's not only hard for the visitor to see but for the nurse also.
That is the only example I will give you.
posted on July 31, 2000 11:39:40 PM
Your position in this is unpopular, Mike, but I'm buying. What you say has an authenticity of feeling that's been missing in this entire fiasco. I am sure that others will not agree, and equally sure that it doesn't matter.
posted on July 31, 2000 11:49:09 PMSgtmike How about something like, Dear Calamity, Your recent post to the AW is about a friend of my families named _____. I am sure that you posted with good intentions, but because of my relationship with her family, it is hurtful to them. Would you please edit that post?
The inclusion of the name would have made it clear to her that you did know the person and might have been the quick resolution you were seeking. Instead you posted further identifying information clarifying exactly who she was talking about - in case anyone missed it. O.K. I still don't get it, but I don't have to.
posted on July 31, 2000 11:59:47 PM
Names, names, names. The names and location were peripheral and mean nothing to most of you. To those from the area, the names and location is moot, they would immediately know who and where she was talking about.
This one statement alone, made by calam, defames the deceased, the deceased's family and friends, and the community the deceased lived in and died in.
"She was nothing more than a slave for her entire life."
God, what a horrible summation of 93-years of life that cannot be rebuked by the deceased.
calam
I, repeat, I besmirched your friend's memory????? You best read what (you) wrote about the deceased's family, friends, priest, town, etc.
"It is true that you may fool all the people some of the time; you can even fool some of the people all the time ; but you can't fool all of the people all the time."
posted on August 1, 2000 12:20:07 AM
My thought was that a quick email could have resulted in her deleting the post which would have been it was seen by a lot fewer people than have seen it now. Another reason it bothered me so much that you posted the names is because I realized that when I posted my tribute to Bailey last week it was possible that another poster might have recognized the situation and came behind my post with her and her families full name. That would have destroyed my purpose of quietly honoring this child. I'm too sleepy tonight to be as clear as I'd like, (2:30 a.m. and what am I still doing up) but, it just alarms me when one poster gives more information than another poster intended to have revealed.
posted on August 1, 2000 12:23:48 AM
Calamity, I've reread the post that started this thing, twice. There is no doubt that it is you who have besmirched this woman, not sgtmike. You have said horrible, demeaning things about her life. If you don't believe me, go back and reread it yourself. I don't know anyone who'd want to be remembered that way. You're setting no example in "expression" in publishing these awful things about this poor woman, who's unable to restore herself to the dignity you've stripped from her. Yes, you lost someone you cared about, but you've used her badly in whatever you were attempting here, and you should stop trying to justify it. What the hell ever happened to "don't speak ill of the dead"?
I would be willing to drive the distance and meet in a location of the besmirched. You bring those you feel (I) besmirched, and I'll gather up those that I believe (you) besmirched. I'll bring copies of your revelations and my rebuttals and hand them out for all the besmirched people to read.
Then we will ask for a vote on whom besmirched whom. If it is determined any of your comments were false or mistaken, you will put a retraction on AW. If it is determined that I let the cat out of the bag, I'll post I let the cat out of the bag.
What sayeth you?
mybiddness
Gotta give you an "A" for affort. How about this food for thought. If calam had not said the things she did, and had no right to do, the fear of people knowing would not be a concern, would it?
