I couldn't agree more. Your first husband was very wise, in my opinion. I don't mind losing a debate, it's the tactics used to win it, or sidetrack it, that I take exception with. While there are many individuals, for sure, far more adapt at debating than I could ever hope to be. If they use borderline CG tactics to try to end the discussion in some way, or turn it into a personally offensive matter, then they are in need of more than just debating skills. While debating skills, to me, are very commendable. The skill of how to interact with other persons, takes precedence over the former. Especially while trying to prove your opinion is more worthy of acceptance than anothers. It's a ground that should, in my opinion, be approached with more humility.
posted on May 2, 2001 12:14:52 PM
What's the point of this thread?
You made comments, Mint, which other posters, including me, took exception to. The discussion was pretty adult-like until you edited out every one of your comments. Then you start a thread looking for pity?
posted on May 2, 2001 12:17:53 PM
It's an academic discussion which changes nothing. The way someone feels someone else SHOULD behave and the way that someone else CHOOSES to behave (or even believes they SHOULD behave) are often different.
posted on May 2, 2001 12:23:42 PM
LOL, my first husband was far from wise. That's one of the many reasons he's my ex. What he taught me was how to deal with people like him. The walking away was what what I learned as a result of being married to him. He was a master at manipulation.
Boy, that's the best laugh I've had in a month...my ex wise....hahahahaha...snort.
posted on May 2, 2001 12:27:02 PM"If they use borderline CG tactics to try to end the discussion in some way, or turn it into a personally offensive matter, then they are in need of more than just debating skills.
Would you mind Mint describing exactly what you mean, by example, when you make this statement?
I'm always myself, sometimes to much. I believe you may remember the post I made to you regarding your seatbelt usage. I have always noticed how gracious you are. Even when others kept bugging you about the seatbelt, you maintained your composure, while standing steadfast to your refusal. You took notice of others concerns for you, over your personal desires to let it be. Something that is endangered in today's society. Usually when trying to get someone to change a habit, such as this, or smoking, you will get the wrath of the individual you address.
As far as to the other post you addressed to me following this one, about disclosing why I posted this thread to begin with, it has already been addressed. Even if it were one specific incident, to rehash it again would serve no meaningful purpose. As I've already said, it's not the debating, it's the tactics. Personally, my skin is thick enough now, and I try to maintain the thickness to not exceed it's present level. I am also rather soft inside, and that, I don't want to lose. Neither does the person I love. I find typing from the heart, much easier than the mind. My compassion for others, is far more important to me, than my debating abilities.
"Some posters have been driven away because of the reasons you state."
That's why I posted this topic for discussion. I would like to see more people at the top of the pit "come on down". Much like 'The Price is Right'. I think they will, if the price is not to high.
"So.....hang around, we'll grow on you while you're developing that 'thicker' skin."
Thanks, I appreciate that. I mentioned skin thickness in my previous post. I'm not going anywhere.
Respectfully, Mint
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[ edited by mint4you on May 2, 2001 12:51 PM ]
posted on May 2, 2001 12:56:08 PM
Well, zoomin, I imagine it depends on what your snorting. It was almost coffee. I suppose that's acceptable right. But probably only as long as it's not followed by spewing.
posted on May 2, 2001 02:30:48 PM
Mint4you: Actually she had the most lasting effect of any AW poster ever. Her interaction with other posters prompted the "Waca Outburst", which led to the firing of the moderator, and led to a change in the AW Community Guidelines.
Or whoever is moderator at this time, will you please lock this thread at your will. Anyone who addressed me wanting a response as of this posts time stamp, you may have been on my 'ignore'. If so, that is why I did not respond to you. What a nice feature.
Thanks, whoever locks this thread. Much appreciated. If it's you Pat, I hope the Tums lasted long enough.
I have always noticed how gracious you are. Even when others kept bugging you about the seatbelt, you maintained your composure, while standing steadfast to your refusal. You took notice of others concerns for you, over your personal desires to let it be. Something that is endangered in today's society. Usually when trying to get someone to change a habit, such as this, or smoking, you will get the wrath of the individual you address.
Does that get me of the hook?
