posted on October 26, 2000 11:24:54 PM new
Ok, my baby girl passed away of SIDS on August 20th 2000. I have a lot of clothes that she never wore. I would like to sell them because we need the money- (we are keeping the clothes she did wear in a nice trunk for her.)
My question is what should I say in the description- what if a bidder asks why they were never used? Please advise....
posted on October 26, 2000 11:38:38 PM new
kirbybunch, Firstly, my sympathies.
You sound like a very practical person and are doing what is neccessary for you, despite the fact that you would probably prefer to keep them.
Personally. I would not make mention of the cicumstances.
I say this for two reasons.
Firstly, many people would feel uncomfortable and not bid.
Secondly, Some people may mis-construe such a description in a listing as trying to elicit sympathetic "silly" bidding and accordingly also turn away from your auction.
Simply list and sell the clothes on their own merits of quality, style and special features.
If however a prospective buyer emailed you and asked that particular question then I think that an open explanation should be given.
I sincerely hope that this goes well for you and does not inflict too much pain.
Regards,
Bob, Downunder but never down.
posted on October 26, 2000 11:39:15 PM new
Kirbybunch .. my heart goes out to you! How tragic.
I expect that few people will actually question why they were never worn. To avoid the question, if you (understandably) don't want to discuss this with bidders, I would just state in each auction that they were outgrown already when received. I've seen that in quite a few auction descriptions. All that matters is that they were not worn .. the reason should not matter at all.((Hugs to you and your family))
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I have a memory like a steel trap .. unfortunately it's rusted shut!
posted on October 26, 2000 11:51:30 PM new
hi,SO SORRY FOR YOU & YOUR FAMILY, WE CARE, LOST MY MOM & HAD TO SELL MANY OF HER TREASURES this hurt me but the funeral took every cent we had in the world.I don't think anyone will even ask you,but a short phrase,new,never worn should do.(didn't fit would work good too)Many people on ebay buy things at everywhere from yard sales to store closeouts
and most bidders never ask where they are from.
Think of this,I was so upset & having to sell the stuff seemed so awful,but now two years later i see it helped me a lot.
Financially of course,but keeping my mind busy on auctions,meeting great on-line friends,& even turned it into a little business of my own.so good luck to you, we grow through these times & it's so hard but you are not alone,lots of us out there with you & we care.
GOD BLESS YOU & YOURS, YOUR LITTLE ANGEL IS PROUD OF HOW BRAVE YOU ARE BEING RIGHT NOW.(some people would just give up) You are
very strong,i know how it feels now for you,& it will get a little better & you will make it.GOD BLESS,PAM OREGON
posted on October 27, 2000 06:17:31 AM new
kirbybunch:
I won't try to add the the excellent advice already given. But you have my sincere wishes for the best and I'm very sorry about the loss of your precious child. Good luck for the future...
posted on October 27, 2000 06:56:48 AM new
kirby, I'm so sorry about what happened to you. I had a sibling who died of SIDS many years ago and I feel for you. I am an only child and I wanted brothers and sisters so badly. But it was not to be. Hang in there, time does not erase the pain but life gets in the way and helps you look forward to the next thing, and that is a blessing in itself. Hugs and good luck with the clothing, I doubt any one will question you, I sold clothing that was new from a close out and no one ever asked me why. Kim
posted on October 27, 2000 07:26:57 AM new
kirbybunch;
I'm so sorry for the loss of your child.
I have been selling clothes for over 2 years on eBay, a good portion of it children's clothing and brand new stuff, and I have *never* had anyone ask why it wasn't worn, where it came from, or anything other than size/color questions.
posted on October 27, 2000 08:54:06 AM new
Firstly my condolences on your loss. There is no greater loss than that of a child and I am so sorry this happened to you.
Secondly, just list as new never used. It's certainly possible for babies to have outgrown new items before they are ever worn. Let the buyers make their own assumptions...it is nobody's business but yours about the details.
posted on October 27, 2000 05:09:49 PM new
I have to agree with the last post. If you want to tell a prospective bidder if they ask, it's your call to do so or not. Trust your instincts - they are rarely wrong.
"Stuff is stuff, but the memories stored in your heart last forever."
Anon. quote
posted on October 27, 2000 05:56:09 PM new
Kirbybunch - I have been in your shoes with the loss of your daughter. It's been 7 1/2 years but it seems like yesterday. I can't put in words my dearest sympathies. But if you feel like you need to talk to someone (via email), feel free to email me. [email protected]
posted on October 27, 2000 06:50:43 PM new
Kirbybunch: Let me add my sympathies to all the above. And, it seems to me, if I were looking for such clothes and e-mailed to ask why they hadn't been worn, it would be obvious to me that you weren't faking it or playing for higher bids since you hadn't mentioned that in your original description. I would then feel bad for you but would definitely bid on the clothes. Good luck to you.
posted on October 27, 2000 06:58:30 PM new
phbros, I am saying it this way so as not to muddy up this topic. When a loved one dies people often keep memories in the form of clothing, jewelry, Flags (if they were veterans)many things.
Have some compassion.
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