alanuk
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posted on September 12, 2001 08:45:49 PM new
I know this is a very sensitive time and I am unsure how to respond to an email I just received regarding one of my auctions that finished on Sunday.
"Sorry right now I am busy with the New York and D.C crisis, so I am not going to purchase the C.D.
Thank you very much."
This person has 2 feedback. One is a positive and the other negative for backing out of another auction in August.
Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks
Alan
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genxmike
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posted on September 12, 2001 08:50:36 PM new
I think I'll be accepting this as an excuse for the next little while. Just do a NPB that states that you are mutally agreeing to cancel the auction and you'll only have to eat the listing fees. Small cost given the situation.
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eastwest
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posted on September 12, 2001 08:55:21 PM new
pull there user info if they are based in the east i will let it go ....but if they are from the west....i would like the ten days go buy ...file a npb then send the neg them
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kolonel22
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posted on September 12, 2001 09:13:16 PM new
I know this is a very sensitive time and we all want to be compassionate and especially respectful towards this unbelievable situation our country now faces. However I have already received two similar
“Excuses” from people. It’s funny because in another thread someone mentioned they wondered how long it would take before someone used the bombings as an excuse not to pay for something they bid on.
I seriously doubt a person could be involved in both the New York and Washington crisis at the same time unless they are in some form of law enforcement, although you never know. Technically it probably takes as much time to write a check as it does to send you an e-mail with the excuse why they can’t pay. So I personally find this to be a very lame but anticipated excuse.
I totally agree with [eastwest] who said "pull there user info if they are based in the east i will let it go ....but if they are from the west....i would like the ten days go buy ...file a npb then send the neg them." Or you might ask them what involvement they have in the crises that they are to busy too honor their bid and take less than a few minutes to write a check and stick it in a mail box on the way to conducting their business.
Health & happiness
"The Colonel"
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alanuk
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posted on September 12, 2001 09:13:47 PM new
I recently moved here from the UK and am not sure of all the state codes so please forgive my ignorance. This user is from KS. Is that Kansas ?
[ edited by alanuk on Sep 12, 2001 09:15 PM ]
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jmjones6061
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posted on September 12, 2001 09:28:36 PM new
Yep,
KS would be Kansas - right in the middle of the heartland. I think I would give them the benefit of the doubt though - not because I believe them, but because right now I'm too tired for the freaking hassle.....
Jane
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exexec
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posted on September 12, 2001 09:35:39 PM new
You don't have to LIVE on the east coast to have been affected by the tragedy! Many of the people who live in other parts of the country have lost friends, relatives and loved ones. Now is not the time to harden our hearts.
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kiara
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posted on September 12, 2001 09:44:29 PM new
Some bidders may use this as an excuse not to pay.
Others, regardless of where they live, may have lost family or friends.
There is no way for us to judge the emotional impact that the tragedy will have on another person. Some may be able to send their payments and others may be devastated by this and unable to cope at all.
I would just let it go.
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wbbell
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posted on September 12, 2001 09:48:35 PM new
We don't know a soul in NYC and this whole ordeal has caused much trauma in our house. There was a picture in the paper today of someone who had jumped off of the WTC. I lost my appetite and couldn't eat breakfast. That is an image I won't soon forget.
However, I would question being "busy" with the matter. If the person is really busy, i.e., friends or relatives in question, they are not going to be reading email. Or they will be asking for more time.
I'd let it go.
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jacqueg
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posted on September 12, 2001 10:45:51 PM new
My latest response from a deadbeat after submitting the NPB form:
"Hi I'm sorry I havent gotten to this I will send mo out as soon as I can first I was on VaCa and then my mother past on the 4th and now I have about 12 friends missing at WTC"
This bidder received a neg from another seller on the 6th for non-payment.
This bidder has also been merrily bidding while on vacation, through the death of his mother and the possible loss of 12 friends.
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quickdraw29
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posted on September 13, 2001 12:22:22 AM new
I'd do what eastwest said first, or just send them an email and let them know they have up to one month to send payment. Unless their house burnt down it's hard to see why they can't send payment in a few weeks.
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cin131
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posted on September 13, 2001 05:25:10 AM new
I'd have to agree, just let it go. File for FVF, using whichever option it is that says you both decided to walk away. It is very stressful on 99% of the Americans, and with so many missing & inujured, their family could be anywhere. I live in Cincinnati, and there are at least 2 families that have sons lost in the rubble. When you add to the list siblings, aunts/uncles, grandparents, cousins, etc, your talking THOUSANDS of people. And these people are supporting the waiting immediate family right now. I'd give that excuse a little leeway.
cindy
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soothsayer
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posted on September 13, 2001 05:29:40 AM new
as i stated in a previous thread on tuesday, this type of thing will n=be rampant on ebay. the deadbeats will jump on this and work it for all its worth..........personally i think most are full O bull.........i would base my acceptance on several things like user info location but mainly their bidding activity during the past days....if they infact were/are involved in the tragedy they certainly would not have been bidding on ANYTHING............maybe i am hardend by the deadbeats of the past who over the last 4 plus years have used every excuse under the sun
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sadie999
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posted on September 13, 2001 05:33:03 AM new
I'm with the folks saying let it go. Even folks from the heartland or the west may be involved. Rescue crews from all over the country are making their way the NY to help with the efforts there.
Will we see this excuse used by folks with no scruples? Yes. Their pathetic lives are their own rewards. No need to hassle your life over it.
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inside
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posted on September 13, 2001 06:46:13 AM new
So what, you let it go and some deadbeat beats you out?
You don't let it go and the person you retaliate against is the one honest person really hurt.
The first case you might lose a little money.
The second case you lose your humanity and compassion.
Easy choice for me.
I hope I never become so hardened that I set a price on my self worth.
JMHO
[ edited by inside on Sep 13, 2001 06:48 AM ]
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alanuk
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posted on September 13, 2001 01:49:13 PM new
Thank you to everyone for your advice and for taking the time to reply to my post.
I have decided that I will just let it go. I would hate to think I had been so uncompassionate with a genuine person.
As there is no way to tell if this is or not, and under the circumstances, I think this is the best thing to do.
Thanks again.
Alan
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