posted on October 18, 2001 09:54:54 AM new
Here's the story:
Yesterday I was browsing the wanted board at ebay. Saw a post where a newbie with 0 feedback has posted their items for sale to try to get bids.
So I emailed this user. I figured that s/he is a newbie and just didn't bother to read the rules of the board. I was very polite and tried to be just helpful. I just explained that that isn't what the board is intended for. I was very friendly and even included smilies.
S/he responds to my email by FILLING my email box with blank emails. This continued yesterday until I figured out how to block her email addy.
This morning I log in to my email, and low and behold guess who emailed? Yep her but with a new email addy. Tons of blanks again ~ well kind of blank. She actually just replies. So I get a blank reply, but with my original message there too. So I know it's her. The only difference today is that she is putting pretty lttle messages in the subject line. Stuff like "LICK MY C*NT & A**"
Oh happy day.
I reported her to [email protected], [email protected], her ISP, her local police (who asked for forwarded copies of the emails, but have since done nothing ~ I didn't really expect them to though).
This will teach me. I will never try to help out a newbie again! So what can I do now? Nothing?
posted on October 18, 2001 10:01:37 AM new
I'd probably email them once more and just tell them that if you get any more emails you will report them to ebay, the police, their ISP, etc....and that you have an automatic filtering of unknown email addy's to a "junk file" so that it doesn't really matter if they continue, and then just ignore them and eventually they will get tired and go away.
posted on October 18, 2001 10:29:33 AM new
She just ended a load of my auctions with buy it now. Here come the negs. And now she has my contact info too.
Call me a baby, but this getting scary.
captain ~ thanks, but I did that. I'm now ignoring all her emails ~ actually putting into a file in my email box just for her. I'm saving them ALL.
toollady ~ I didn't think of that. I will do that now. Thanks!!!
posted on October 18, 2001 10:53:42 AM new
If she does not follow through, you should consider a small claims law suit, even if it costs you money, just to harass this person.
Another piece of advice. Get more than 1 ebay account. It is perfectly legit, as long as you do not use it to bid on or up your own auctions. I keep one account strictly for selling, and another one stictly for buying, or I suppose to use in this type of situation. Also, I have not used my home address since 1996, it is just safer to get a PO Box, or a private mail box.
posted on October 18, 2001 02:14:02 PM new
well, so she's stopped emailing me. Thank goodness for that. However I have a friend who posts at the wanted board(met her there actully), and it seems she's the newest target for her seemingly endless harrassment.
The good news is, she does eventually give up. Or at least I hope that's whats going on
kidsfeet ~ thanks for the idea ~ I will get a posting id now. sheesh, it really is a bummer that we need to do all this just to have a fun/safe ebay experience.
posted on October 18, 2001 02:33:27 PM new
luvmy2bears,
Halloween came early this year with this witch! Glad to hear she's let up now.
I'm fairly new to selling on eBaY. Would anyone tell me where's this eBaY wanted board and for protection, how to block a bidder? Thanks
'ladele' here only
posted on October 18, 2001 03:21:39 PM new
luvmy2bears: I am sorry you are having problems with this wacko!
Although this advice isn't going to do you a lick of good, maybe it will help someone else when they feel they must step in for the greater good.
Mind your own business!!!
I realize you feel you were just doing the right thing and trying to give someone you felt was less knowing than you some helpful advice but it really did not concern you one way or the other.
posted on October 18, 2001 07:35:33 PM new
yes,better to keep your mouth shut,whatever she peddles on want board is her business.
well,if she ended your auction with buy it now,is she sending you money or do you need to send her a paypal or billpoint invoice,
get the money,ship the goods,and put up with negs,it is worth it,
GET THE MONEY FIRST
posted on October 20, 2001 09:55:20 PM newDon't offer help to anyone
This is not what I meant. I'm sure your offer to help this person get the rules right was probably altrustic on your part, but can't you see how it may have looked condesending to the other party?
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posted on October 20, 2001 11:14:24 PM new
justgeorge
I'm sure it did come of as condesending and no one likes that, however, there is no excuse for harrassment and auction interference. Only a sick individual would do something that low.
luvmy2bears
There's nothing wrong with helping others. Just stay out of it if someone is breaking the rules. More likely than not they know exactly what they are doing and don't care. That kind on individual is trouble as you found out.
posted on October 20, 2001 11:56:18 PM new
trafukin ~ their post was on the wanted board for all to see, that makes it my business.
justgoerge ~ I wasn't being sarcastic in any way. I meant what i said. DONT HELP ANYONE. But I didn't mean don't help anyone whos asking for help. I meant don't help someone, or correct them...
posted on October 21, 2001 12:02:59 AM new
I don't think one kook out of 500 is a reason not to help others. I've offered advice to many, many newbies and been thanked
countless times. We HAVE to hang together on this planet!
I'm sure it did come of as condesending and no one likes that, however, there is no excuse for harrassment and auction interference.
I agree, it is not an excuse, however it is native and stupid to just assume that there are not crazy people out the in the auction world who will not retailate if they feel they are insulted. Great reason to just mind your own beeswax!! Is it not?
their post was on the wanted board for all to see, that makes it my business.
How in the sam hill does this make it your business??? Because you read it? PULEEAASE!! Sounds like Mrs. Kravitz! (not Lenny's mom). How does her post effect you or your business one way or the other????
It is NOT your business! It is the business of eBay and the original poster. If you really felt you must put in your important 2 cents maybe you should just tell it to eBay and let them deal with it.
I meant what i said. DONT HELP ANYONE. But I didn't mean don't help anyone whos asking for help. I meant don't help someone, or correct them...
probably a very good idea since no one really knows who is going to be on the other side of our helpful emails and how they might respond to it.
Not everyone appreciates being "corrected" by a total stranger and besides as someone else pointed out the original poster probably knew exactly what she was doing when she listed her auctions on the giving board, you just caught her.
belalug3
It is possible that you have not yet run into a kooky weirdo who will not want or appreciate your advice. Food for thought.
