posted on October 11, 2005 06:55:42 AM new
A message to my family now living in a doghouse:
I spend countless hours working on eBay stuff so my family can have extra income that we can use for vacations and just going out. I cook, I clean, I do laundry and I work a 9-5 job. So, yesterday was my 49th birthday. I have a boyfriend of seven years, mother, father, step-father, two children, a grandchild, four brothers, countless nieces and nephews (who I am constantly coming to the aid of) and who wished me a happy birthday? My father and my granddaughter. What did I get for my birthday? A card from my father. Oh, Ken did give me a box of lens cleaners this morning. Whoopee! On a better note, several of my friends did make a birthday call.
So, as a message to my family, come January, February, March (with two b-days), September, and November (again two b-days) when I'm expected to gather b-days lists, I will have forgotten to do so. Just a little advanced warning. Oh, and remember, Christmas is right around the corner.
Now that the vent is out of the way, congrats to estatesalestuff for what I understand was a largely successful live auction!! I'm sooooo proud!
posted on October 11, 2005 07:17:17 AM new
Cheryl: Maybe they're already making preparations for the big five-oh coming up for you!
I know how you feel. It's happened here occasionally, and I always wonder where people's heads are. Especially as we grow older, for some reason our kids think birthdays don't mean as much to us. Just a phone call or a card on big days does mean more than they'll ever know--until they're our age.
posted on October 11, 2005 07:45:08 AM new
Happy Birthday!!!
We're the same age! Judging by the pictures of your last party for Ryan, mother nature has been kinder to you than to me...you look terrific for being 49...
I would be a little bit hurt if no one remembered my birthday, too. After all you did for Ryan and not even a card from his mother? What was she thinking? A boyfriend of 7 years and not even a card? And the reason he is still around is what??
I think if I was in your position I would take a year off from giving gifts and buy myself something with the money saved from not giving birthday gifts!
And since you have worked so hard to provide for everyone else, I would save that Ebay money, and go on a vacation with my girlfriends that remembered my birthday.
Ken's pretty good most of the time! I did remind him at 11:00 p.m. last night before I went to bed. This morning he looked like a defeated puppy dog. Revenge! LOL!
My brother's business partner (a jeweler and designer), called me this morning. They are making an opal necklace for me. It's a rather large opal from what I understand. I already have two opal necklaces they've made for me in the past. So, my brother Tom is off the hook.
And, I do plan on buying myself something. A new digital camera! Ken just went out and spent $500 on one for himself. Oh, I'm allowed to borrow it if I want, but I want my own new one. That's what I'm buying for ME! I'm also giving myself a weekend trip to my favorite place - Hocking Hills, Ohio. No computers, no phones. Just quiet!
posted on October 11, 2005 09:25:56 AM new
Cheryl,
I might have been a little hard on Ken...posting before my first cup of coffee...I'm sorry for that. (I normally don't even talk to anyone before coffee, let alone post)
Maybe he will feel so bad that he forgot your birthday that he will come home today with a digital camera for you or at the very least a cake and card.
My ex husband and his entire family could not ever get the day right (May 18th) and for 12 years they celebrated my birthday on the 16th, usually with a big dinner or BBQ or something! At least it was before my actual birthday and not after.
posted on October 11, 2005 09:52:50 AM new
Listen up Sweetie.. next visit up to Cleveland,
I'll drop by and straighten up the whole lot of those slackers for you!
Happy Belated Birthday, to a Special Person!
from an equally special person.. LOL..xxxooo
posted on October 11, 2005 10:06:24 AM new
Happy Birthday! I have a fit trying to keep up with mine,I'm always afraid I'll forget to renew my Drivers License or my auto tag. Since most of my family has been dead for years,and my husband don't even know when my birthday is,it comes and goes and I don't even know how old I am most of the time without figuring it out.
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Two men sit behind bars,one sees mud the other sees stars.
posted on October 11, 2005 10:42:14 AM new
My son shares my birthday and my daughter was born the day after. We usually just do one big birthday celebration on a convenient weekend. It used to bug me somewhat that I used to have to "share" my birthday but now that they are older and out of the house at least they remember it! And visa versa! I'm terrible with birthdays and holidays almost always a day late with extended family.
As far as the boyfriend. Most men often do forget important days like birthdays and anniversaries. The trick is to talk about it a lot beforehand.
Happy 49th to you. Go out and get your camera. You worked hard this year...you deserve it!
posted on October 11, 2005 10:43:28 AM new
Oh my gosh! Case in point. It's my brother's birthday today and I didn't realize till I saw the date at the top of the post.
posted on October 11, 2005 04:44:40 PM new
Clev--Happy Belated Birthday!!!
Don't feel bad, I'm still waiting on my husband to buy my birthday present he promised me. My birthday was the end of August and no present or cake. He had better make up for it at Christmas. I have already told him what I want--and several times.
I can relate! I think you need to write it down on several things. Stuff it in his wallet, under his pillow, in his underwear drawer. Leave a note in the fridge, in the car, anywhere he's likely to go. Paste it on the bathroom mirror. Oh heck, if he's anything like Ken paste it all over the bathroom. He spends enough time in there. Oh, sorry, I meant to say the "reading room". LOL!
posted on October 11, 2005 06:09:23 PM new
Happy birthday Cheryl. You have to realize, it's hard for men to remember things other than the starting times of football games. You should forgive Ken for not buying a gift. It would probably be something you don't want or need anyway. Tell him he can get out of the doghouse if he'll just loan you his Mastercard or Visa for a couple hours
A $75.00 solid state device will always blow first to protect a 25 cent fuse ~ Murphy's Law
posted on October 12, 2005 09:34:02 AM new
Why, o why, do women attach so much more importance to birthdays and such than men? I am not criticizing anyone here, just contemplating what seems to be an immutable law of nature after coming up short in this area recently.
On a helpful note, if you make the slackers feel bad enough they will surely improve their performance at the next opportunity. And it helps to be specific about your expectations instead of suffering silently. At least that is what I have learned thanks to my significant other.
posted on October 12, 2005 03:23:43 PM new
Happy belated birthday Cheryl ... no, the live auction here in
Akron was not a success ... it was a disaster ... here is a poetic email I got from a friend in Florida, and the reply I sent to him ...
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He wrote:
WELL THE SALE IS OVER THIS WE KNOW ;
;BUT DID YOU SELL IT ALL AND LET IT GO;
;
HOW ABOUT THE HOUSE UPON THE HILL;; IS IT GONE TO SOME ONE NEW ;
;WITH ALL THE MONEY YOU KNOW WHAT TO DO;
COME ON DOWN AND VISIT US TWO;; WITH ALL THE MONEY WE;LL WELCOME YOU ;
;OUR HOUSE IS YOURS MY CAR IS TOO;
WITH ALL THAT MONEY I;LL LOVE YOU;;;;;;;;;;;;;
THE POET OS;;
NOT BAD. EH?
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My response:
What a great poem! ... I'll answer in kind.
If you think it went well, you're out of your mind.
Good Lord and oh heck,
it was like a train wreck.
The low bids coming in from the small crowd,
made our family and the auctioneer cry out loud.
The barker would scold, "you KNOW it's worth MORE! what'll ya give me?"
and one would say ... "$four"
It was a downward spiral, from then on out.
And no voice left in us to shout.
We started out, as pleasant greeters,
only to be robbed by bottomfeeders.
The 'house' went for low-end like doin' the limbo,
"how low can you go?"
But hark, forsooth, and awaken!
even though we'd been taken,
Tom's bro said, "we're even. all perceived debt is forgiven.
Thank you for your hard work." (we were driven!)
So we'll put that behind us; say good-bye to the hurts.
But we're full speed this week, selling some shirts.
Signed,
Marcia ...
got shirts? llc.
Upward and onward!!!!
[ edited by estatesalestuff on Oct 12, 2005 03:26 PM ]
Caroline