Borillar
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posted on April 9, 2001 12:04:58 PM
First, do not respond to him: that will only make matters worse. If you keep receiving letters and it seems that he is getting more obsessed, then seek a lawyer for advice and to have him send a letter to the inmate to stop corresponding.
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HJW
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posted on April 9, 2001 12:09:33 PM
Alas, This blooming fairy has lost it's blossom.
Helen
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KatyD
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posted on April 9, 2001 12:33:33 PM
You will need to send a letter to the Warden of the prison requesting that you receive no further correspondence from that prisoner. Send the letter registered with return receipt requested. This should take care of it.
KatyD
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Pocono
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posted on April 9, 2001 01:00:48 PM
Send him your picture, with a note reading:
"I'm waiting"
just email me for the picture that you need to send...
HA!
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krs
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posted on April 9, 2001 01:12:34 PM
No problem.
Just tell him that you lied about your name and that it's really Brenda. He won't want any more to do with you.
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spazmodeus
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posted on April 9, 2001 03:13:04 PM
I don't blame you for being concerned, Brandi. Maybe you can call someone at the Department of Corrections anonymously (so they don't automatically go to this guy and rattle his cage). Maybe they have counselors or prisoner relations personnel who can talk to you. Explain the situation in general terms and ask what they feel might be the best way to handle the situation. I'm sure this isn't the first time something like this has happened.
Talk it over with your friends, too, see what they think.
He's probably not a threat but it's best to be safe.
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KatyD
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posted on April 9, 2001 05:08:43 PM
Actually you're right, Spaz. This type of thing happens pretty often. That's why I said to contact the Warden of the prison. They will intercept the prisoner's outgoing mail and pull any letters addressed to her. I was in the same situation years ago with a cousin with whom I had been quite close growing up. He was in Huntsville, and when he wasn't writing letters specifying each and every item he wanted in his next "care" package, he would write letters threatening what he was going to do to whoever that a). was responsible for him being in prison, b). how he was going to get even with those people who were making his life miserable IN prison, c). how he was going to get even with those people that weren't helping him get OUT of prison, or c). what revenge he was going to take on those people who were ignoring his letters that he was writing FROM prison. It got old really fast, and while I could just refuse the "collect" phone calls, I got tired of the harassing letters that followed, as did everyone else in the family. Finally we contacted the Warden and that was that. No more letters.
I will say that he is out now and seems to be doing okay. We've talked a couple of times on the phone after his mom (my aunt) died, and he's never mentioned the letters or the threats. So he must have gotten over it. 
KatyD
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mybiddness
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posted on April 9, 2001 09:20:31 PM
I'm afraid I can't add anything to the advice that Spaz and KatyD have already given to you but I just wanted to say that I hope this all works out for you. And, I'm sorry that you had to give up your publication. Maybe it'll come back around for you in the future.
Sometimes the most innocent of friendly overtures are misinterpreted. For your sake I hope the warden makes a believer out of this guy.
Not paranoid anywhere else but here!
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enchanted
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posted on April 9, 2001 09:29:34 PM
you've gotten some good advice above, fairyblossom and I wish you luck in working everything out.
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fairyblossom
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posted on April 9, 2001 09:46:32 PM
Hi everyone
I have calmed down a bit since my post this morning and just wanted to THANK each and every one of you that took the time to post your suggestions. I am sure that this will all work out! I wish you only the best!
Brandi
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HJW
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posted on April 10, 2001 07:35:37 AM
Don't worry, fairy blossom. There will always be people here to
come to your aid when you have such an overwhelming problem.
You are a real sweetheart!
Helen
BTW, after reading your story, I began to wonder...do you enjoy
writing or reading poetry?
Helen
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sharkbaby
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posted on April 10, 2001 07:55:38 AM
And lastly.....Don't ever give out your home address! Best of luck to ya!
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fairyblossom
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posted on April 10, 2001 11:43:46 AM
Hi Helen
I do write and have had some luck with a few magazines, I plan to submit more in the next few months. I am also looking into putting a book together. It is certainly one of my passions! Have a wonderful day everyone!
Brandi 
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HJW
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posted on April 10, 2001 11:50:53 AM
Unbelievable! 
Helen
edited to bold, unbelievable!
[ edited by HJW on Apr 10, 2001 11:52 AM ]
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rawbunzel
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posted on April 10, 2001 12:15:10 PM
Hi Helen.
Unbelievable.Yes.
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toke
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posted on April 10, 2001 12:38:33 PM
If krs is correct, that party fed on attention...good or bad didn't matter much...any kind would do. So, unless you enjoy it...
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Hepburn
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posted on April 10, 2001 12:40:16 PM
Red flags are flying all over the place.
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toke
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posted on April 10, 2001 12:51:00 PM
Forgot to mention...I do think he's right. It causes me no small amount of anguish to say this... Another incarnation left us recently, IMO.
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KatyD
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posted on April 10, 2001 01:11:06 PM
Well, I'm only good at spotting one OTHER person's multiple personas, so maybe I missed this one. Dunno...
Toke, I thought so too. That "dearly departed" also used the initial "B".
KatyD
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toke
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posted on April 10, 2001 01:18:55 PM
KatyD...
Yep. I do believe we're on the same track...
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joice
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posted on April 10, 2001 01:51:17 PM
Hello Everyone,
This thread has certainly strayed from the original subject. Please send your concerns to [email protected] if you so desire, otherwise, please post to the subject.
Thanks!
Joice
[email protected]
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joice
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posted on April 10, 2001 02:45:40 PM
fairyblossom,
We are not going to get into a conversation about a Member that is suspended, so I have deleted your post. Please see my post above.
Joice
[email protected]
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fairyblossom
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posted on April 10, 2001 02:50:46 PM
Hi Joice
I am sorry, I wasn't trying to start a conversation about the person that was suspended, I just don't want everyone to think that I AM that person because I am NOT! Sorry for any trouble.
Brandi
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toke
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posted on April 10, 2001 02:53:05 PM
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joice
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posted on April 10, 2001 02:55:14 PM
fairyblossom,
Seems you have received the advice you were seeking, so I'm going to lock this thread. If anyone has an objection, please email me at the address below.
Joice
[email protected]
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