posted on January 6, 2002 12:38:47 AM new
Yes, there are many children up for adoption & it keeps going up. Most people, looking for children to adopt are wanting new borns. New born children, that are not adopted have physical, mental, both deficiencies or byracial. A large amount are born as drug addicts & alcoholics. These children are wards of the court. Some spend most of their young lives in foster homes or group homes run by the State.
Children that are adopted or not adopted, come from all races, poor, rich, not so rich, middle income, low middle income, large families, not so large families, no families or what ever. No one group can lay claim for the most.
Now to add to all of that. There are more children, that would be adopted in a heart beat, who are not wards of the court.
These children can not be adopted, because parents or what ever want sign a release for them to be adopted. Most are brothers & sisters or children the court & welfare dept want to place back into familes. Our son-law come from this group. He lived with 5 foster parents until age 18. His mother was very poor & loved her 2 sons very much. My mother-law also came from this group. Her family was large & well to do.
Most children that are not adopted at birth, to early age, spend from infant to age 18, in a number foster homes or State run group homes. ( Think God for foster parents). Then released at age 18 to sink or swim, or place in a State hosptal.
Our Daughter & Son are adopted. Both had medical & physical problems & both were babies that would not have been adopted or would have been aborted by todays standard.
Both are prolife.
Both are physical & medical sound now. We are very proud of our children. Our Daughter is a fine educator & our Son? Well, he is just one of those dumb pro-football linemen with 2 degrees, who will retire after this season, to become a educator like his sister.
posted on January 8, 2002 08:12:25 AM new
Q.Should I have a baby after 35?
A: No, 35 children is enough.
Q: I'm two months pregnant now. When will my baby move?
A: With any luck, right after he finishes college.
Q: What is the most reliable method to determine a baby's sex?
A: Childbirth.
Q: My wife is five months pregnant and so moody that sometimes she's
borderline irrational.
A: So what's your question?
Q: My childbirth instructor says it's not pain I'll feel during labor,
but pressure. Is she right?
A: Yes, in the same way that a tornado might be called an air current.
Q: When is the best time to get an epidural?
A: Right after you find out you're pregnant.
Q: Is there any reason I have to be in the delivery room while my wife
is in labor?
A: Not unless the word "alimony" means anything to you.
Q: Is there anything I should avoid while recovering from childbirth?
A: Yes, pregnancy.
Q: Do I have to have a baby shower?
A: Not if you change the baby's diaper very quickly.
Q: Our baby was born last week. When will my wife begin to feel and act
normal again?
A: When the kids are in college.
Please call me Charlotte so I don't have ta change my ID.
posted on January 8, 2002 10:07:58 PM new
Very funny, GF.
I think a number of parents are parenting from the other end of the pendulum, giving too much freedom to children and not demonstrating discipline. In the cases where the children manipulate through crying, the parents aren't bad, just ineffective.
In the store where I work, I've seen three crying kids in the last week.
Kid #1 (about 3): Was being pushed in a shopping cart by Dad. Kid was crying non-stop at the top of his lungs for no apparent reason. Father completely ignored child - did not look at or speak to him.
Kid #2 (about 3): Appeared tired, and was being carried under Mom's arm. Most people carry a bag of groceries more carefully than this mom.
Kid #3 (about 2): Whiney and demanding kind of cry, which eventually earned a reward of candy bar at the check out counter.
posted on January 8, 2002 11:36:32 PM new
When I was a kid and would get a spanking, if I didn't stop crying within a reasonable time, my dad would tell me to hush or I was going to get another spanking!
Oh, right, like another spanking was gonna make me stop crying! ROFL!
posted on January 9, 2002 11:24:45 AM new
though it's tough to see when children suffer, prohibiting the choice for the number of children someone can have is not a solution. Who decides? and who decides who will decide? and how will you enforce it? It sounds like an old sci-fi movie from the 70s. Maybe those so strongly against multiple children households could use their time working toward helping those in need instead of assuming the worst and trying to get everyone to agree that no-one should be allowed to have "too many" children (how many is too many again? who decides...).
I know lots of adults who are very happy, who were severely abused through their childhood. Some of them are active in their communities with the needs of others. I would hate to think of those people not being born because their mother had reached her legal quota.
posted on January 9, 2002 12:35:06 PM new
fred, you make some good points! Again, I must say that I think people that adopt are special, and I admire you very much fred. In fact, I think people that adopt a child (or children) with handicaps are angels!!
How true granny!
I agree with you about the parents being responsible for whether their kids act out or not twinsoft. That's why I don't quite understand why a parent would choose to have another child, when they can't raise the first one properly. How is having child #2 going to make that parent better at parenting?? Why do grown-ups act so irresponsibly when it's sooo obvious that it's the children who will end up paying? What kind of parenting is that?
virakech, I understand what you're saying, but, in my mind, the solution to helping people is to get them to understand the full impact of having a child in the first place, not looking after them after they've had 8 children and can't take care of them all. There is so much information out there that I can't find an excuse anymore to be understanding of situations like this.
