posted on November 21, 2000 09:15:30 AM new
This is where the majority has to suffer for the few. You wouldn't believe how many sob stories I receive about why a bidder hasn't remitted their payment or gotten in touch with me. Some stories may be true but the majority are not. The seller had no idea what your situation was, so he suspected that you were a probable deadbeat. What else could he think? I had a situation in September. My grandmother died and I had to leave for Florida the next day. Even though I had things to do, and it took precious time, I added a comment to each of my auctions that were to close during the time period I would be gone and emailed all the auctions I had bid on and was high bidder. While I was in Florida, I was fortunate enough to use my sister's computer and had found time to check my auctions once in a while and accessed my email account via the internet and sent emails to some of my customers. My point is, perhaps an email to the seller, even a one liner would have been appropriate.
[ edited by llama_lady on Nov 21, 2000 09:16 AM ]
posted on November 21, 2000 10:20:08 AM new
heather- i do not want to get into a continuing dialogue with you. however, i was obviously NOT referring to you being naive as to ebay issues, although you may very well be even after 3 years. i WAS obviously referring to you possibly being naive as to posting questions on AW because the negative or critical responses seem to bother you. i saw one of your postings on another AW topic and you apparently had a similar response to critical comments to the extent that another poster told you to "grow up" in different words! you seem to have a pattern of posting questions and then whining about the responses. people will soon stop responding to your posts if you continue in this manner.
posted on November 21, 2000 10:55:46 AM new
What stusi said.
I'm sorry Heather, but your original post made it sound like you had no contact during those ten days, then you said there was email contact during this time. You said his TOS stated "payment needed to be made within 10 days" so why should it surprise you if he refuses payments received after that. There are definitely two sides to this story and I would be curious to hear the other. I sympathise with your situation and I sincerely hope you grandmother is doing well, but judging by your posts, I suspect that there was lack of conderation on both sides. How you say something is just as important as what you say.
Please read stusi's post again. I simply don't agree with you. Please don't take it personally. If you feel the need to have everyone agree with you all the time, perhaps you should reconsider posting on this board.
posted on November 21, 2000 11:06:48 AM new
I send out notices for my auction and often nevr here back from the buyer. That doesn't mean they won't send payment. 98% of the do. Sound like an unreasonable seller and you will probably just have to write this one off and never buy from him again. I woudn't let him get awasy with negging you either. If he can't understand a your reply and payment being made in the time frame he states than just forget about it as people like this can't be reasoned with anyway.
