posted on May 22, 2007 07:45:27 AM newAs we have geographically moved away from our families who used to fill in that need when a couple marry and begin their families. Now they're more isolated in that sense....and these groups 'act as family'. Which only means sharing more love with more people.
It's a myth that families who live in close proximity fill needs of young marrieds when they need advice. In some cases it works but other times it's beneficial that young people are geographically away from their families after they marry. Many marriages have had problems with interfering or domineering mother-in-laws, etc or whenever there is a problem either the young man or woman runs home to momma because it's far too convenient.. Having to face the harsh realities of real life can be a good thing for young marrieds and a way to strengthen a marriage from the beginning.
Another point I'd like to touch on is the possibility of personal information or conflicts within a marriage being shared with a group of people within a town and then the gossip behind the scenes afterwards. If problems are worked out the couple know that others in the group know all about their situation and it can be spilled anywhere anytime.
Once again, this is just my opinion. (Even though someone else here is hell bent on 'making it known what my opinion is worth' because she has decided she knows more about me than I do which was probably her attitude towards others in her group encounters too).
posted on May 22, 2007 08:52:53 AM new
" mingotree
posted on May 21, 2007 09:03:47 PM Bald faced LIAR! I did NOT say that about you:
LIAR ! WHERE ARE YOU??? Can't face the music you yellow-bellied sack of #*!@!
posted on May 21, 2007 06:05:34 PM
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NOT GOING TO LET THIS REST:
logansdad
posted on May 21, 2007 06:31:47 AM new
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Linda_K, have you ever thought of finding another man - maybe one kinda like the sexually retarded ones that talk dirty and you enjoy so much whenever they post here?
Linda hasn't found a man with a hairy butt that meets her requirements yet."""
linduh LIES!!!!!!!!!
Linda_K
posted on May 21, 2007 01:56:58 PM
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classic quotes mingo/sybil -""
A LIE!
"Linda hasn't found a man with a hairy butt that meets her requirements yet."""
and I just PROVED it !!!
linduh logan posted that ...your lying is getting so bad you can't even be sly and devious anymore!!!! But you sure can be a low belly crawling coward !!!
YUP! We KNEW that!"
Linda keep up the good work,with all those exclamation points...I think shes ready to implode! ROFLMAO
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If you dont want to hear the truth....dont ask the question.
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posted on May 22, 2007 09:14:06 AM new
Classic, I think it strikes a nerve in some of us when we give our opinion (no matter the topic) and some uninformed, sanctimonious b!tch comes in thinking she knows more about us than we do ourselves, especially when she doesn't have a clue.
posted on May 22, 2007 09:14:15 AM new
And thank you linduh for keeping another one of your millions of lies right at the top I'll help, too !
Did you learn how to spell war "mOnger"
yet? You're so illiterate and uneducated but you'd think since you ARE a war monger you could at least spell it right !
ASSOCIATED PRESS
The suspects were black. The occupants of the house were white, in bed and naked. Guns drawn, the sheriff's deputies ordered them out of bed anyway.
The homeowners sued the Los Angeles County Sheriff's Department for violating their civil rights. Yesterday, the Supreme Court ended the lawsuit, saying the circumstances were regrettable but not an affront to the Constitution.
Max Rettele and Judy Sadler were in bed when officers, carrying a search warrant, entered their Lancaster, Calif., home in December 2001 in pursuit of a fraud and identity-theft crime ring. One suspect in the case had a gun registered in his name.
The deputies thought that three persons suspected of identity theft, known to be black, still lived there or at another house nearby.
Despite seeing white people in bed, the deputies ordered Mr. Rettele and Miss Sadler to get up. Mr. Rettele tried to grab sweat pants, but was told not to. Miss Sadler tried to cover herself with a blanket.
No more than two minutes elapsed before they were allowed to dress. A few minutes later, the deputies apologized for their actions, thanked the couple for not getting more upset and left.
A federal judge initially dismissed Mr. Rettele and Miss Sadler's lawsuit, but the 9th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals said a jury should decide their civil rights claims.
"After taking one look at plaintiffs, the deputies should have realized that plaintiffs were not the subject of the search warrant and did not pose a threat to the deputies' safety," the appeals court said in a 2-1 ruling.
Ordering the couple out of bed was an undue invasion of their privacy, it said. No one disputed the validity of the warrant.
The Supreme Court, however, said that the deputies acted reasonably to ensure their safety.
"Officers executing search warrants on occasion enter a house when residents are engaged in private activity, and the resulting frustration, embarrassment and humiliation may be real, as was true here," the court said in an unsigned opinion reversing the appeals court. Only Justice David Souter thought the appellate judges got it right.
When the deputies left the white couple, they found the three black suspects at the other house the warrant authorized them to search.
posted on May 22, 2007 10:01:36 AM new
If an uninformed, sanctimonious, aging, busy-body b!tch from Arkansas who has exposed her entire boring life here wants to now make assumptions about the life of a complete stranger in another country and then try to tell everyone about it too, I can only find great amusement in it.
posted on May 22, 2007 10:02:35 AM new
"""And like I've said, as a never having been married women....you wouldn't have a clue."""
Again: what a unbelievably ignorant statement. It ain't rocket science, it ain't some great Mystery of Life
It's a relationship...they come in many forms and styles.
Just because you live in a coccoon doesn't mean everyone does. Never having had but one sad relationship in that coccoon means you don't have a clue
And are now, more than ever, "clueLESS!
posted on May 22, 2007 10:32:11 AM new
Yes, I'm sure, linduh, that you consider anyone who gives you a big dose of common sense would be considered by you as "losing it". And calling on classic to back you up shows your desperation
Just because your marriage was devoid of love, kindness, friendship, generosity and sex doesn't make you an expert
posted on May 22, 2007 10:37:12 AM new
May I remind you that when I use a smilie it's because I'm laughing from the heart, Linda_K.
You tend to read others as the way you write with your smilies - always with complete hostility and constant anger and utter contempt and to the point of 'losing it'.
Trust me on this one, I am genuinely amused that you think you know more about my life than I do.
posted on May 22, 2007 10:44:31 AM new
and some uninformed, sanctimonious b!tch comes in thinking she knows more about us than we do ourselves, especially when she doesn't have a clue
Sounds like Kiara does really know Craw after all.
And in my opinion the reason Craw attacked Linda's 41 year relationship in its, (Craws), initial response is the reason it (Craw) chose not to reproduce, (from her mothers day post), is that she (it) was unable to find a suitable sperm donor willing to make the required deposit and or willing to commit to a long term relationship to insure the survival of the resultant product.
It is foolish and wrong to mourn the men who died. Rather we should thank God that such men lived.George S. Patton
posted on May 22, 2007 10:54:42 AM new
I'd like to add that Roadsmith comes across as a sensible lady who gets along well with most others. So I can see that she would be an asset to any group that met and discussed relationships. She sounds open enough to not be too judgmental of others and to accept their opinions and give them some worth.
I don't see that with Linda_K as she can't seem to get along with anyone unless they agree with her. Any other opinions bear little weight with her and make her angry.
posted on May 22, 2007 11:03:05 AM newSounds like Kiara does really know Craw after all.
Bear, I have never had Mingo assume anything about my life and then take it upon herself to insist it's true and write about it here.
Linda_K does that and there used to be another one posting here that would write long, rambling and imaginary stories all about my life. Perhaps when Linda_K read that she believed it all and that's the info she's now going on. She admitted recently she still uses that person as her back-up here.
posted on May 22, 2007 11:08:44 AM new
I just LOVE kiara's last post.
She's showing her humorous side again.
She's the one that constantly posts personal things about my life...AS does mingo...and then she WHINES and LIES about me posting things she has shared on these threads over the years as being made up.
posted on May 22, 2007 11:22:58 AM newShe's the one that constantly posts personal things about my life...
I haven't posted anything personal about your life that you didn't put on the board to begin with, Linda_K. If you object because it was so 'personal', why did you put it out there for all to read then?
You claim you know so much about my personal life and relationships but so far you haven't been able to substantiate it with a single link or any proof. Why is that?
posted on May 22, 2007 11:27:01 AM new
Now kaira....don't start LYING again.
Just do a search on vendio for 'broken crystal ball' and you'll find HUNDREDS of posts you've made about my life when I've never posted any such thing.
But what I've mentioned about you...YOU have posted on threads over the years.
LIE if you must....but I'm sure honest readers here will remember all the times I've confronted you for your FALSE statements about MY life.
posted on May 22, 2007 11:29:07 AM new
roadsmith
posted on May 20, 2007 12:07:56 PM
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hwahwa: One of the many things that can help a marriage is to treat each other the way we tend to treat everyone else in our lives who aren't in our family. With courtesy, with thanks for actions, with praise. We've got nearly 48 years now and going stronger than ever.
We also, as Linda touched on, were members of a church which started groups for couples. We met every Friday night with our group (yes, Friday nights!) for about 4 years, in each other's homes. My husband and I went on to form one for college-age couples and for older couples, before we moved out of Vegas. These weren't exactly encounter groups, but we could talk frankly about our relationships, and I'm sure it's one of the reasons we're still happily married.
There were many years, when our children were junior high and high school age, that my husband and I were ships that pass in the night: much too busy for even normal conversation. And it was really awful when they stayed up later than we did! Intimacy is tough when the kids are in a room on the floor below you watching tv. (At one point my husband actually came home for some R&R during school days. And now I've probably told you more than you wanted to know, right!?)
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There is more to life than increasing its speed. --Mahatma Gandhi
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roadsmith
posted on May 20, 2007 01:50:04 PM
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I know this comes as a surprise to all my liberal friends here, but I do agree with Linda on this issue. All the big psychologists, including Dr. Phil, tell young couples to concentrate more on the marriage and less on the one-day wedding ceremony and party. They all include counseling.
Too many couples get married having never discussed children or not, money issues (who does the finances, etc.), and basic values (like politics, education, religion).
All of the couples in the group we started with and loved have stayed together--a sort of record these days. Most of them are still close friends.
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But of course, mingo and kiara ONLY want to focus on MY positions on marriage enrichment programs and how great they can be for long term marrieds.
There MUST be a reason for the constant focus on ME.
LOL
Couldn't be because they're both OBSESSED with my positions and they just can't help themselves.
roadsmith and I are in AGREEMENT on this ONE issue....and mingo and kiara just can't STAND that. LOL LOL LOL
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posted on May 22, 2007 11:40:24 AM new
You mean your 'broken crystal ball' stuff like in this recent topic, Linda_K? That's what the majority of it is and how is that personal privy info about you??
posted on May 22, 2007 11:51:21 AM newroadsmith and I are in AGREEMENT on this ONE issue....and mingo and kiara just can't STAND that. LOL LOL LOL
Sigh. Linda_K, I see nothing wrong with you and Roadsmith being in agreement with this issue and from what you've written, both of you benefited from the experience.
Unfortunately you chose to attack me because I didn't agree that it was something I'd be interested in doing also. Then you went on to assume complete nonsense about my life with no proof whatsoever and then you judged my opinion based on your assumptions. Days later you still insist you're correct about what you assume about me, yet it's MY life I'm living and I'm a stranger to you on a chat board. How stupid is that?
posted on May 22, 2007 11:52:28 AM new
Haha! Look at linduh...so proud that FINALLY she is in agreement with someone other than the sock puppets, the brain dead, stone, bear and classic! Finally!
posted on May 22, 2007 11:54:19 AM new
Oh, and "carbon Offsets and Newt and other silly posts used to get post like these (where your lies and stupidity are proven) to drop just won't work
posted on May 22, 2007 12:05:11 PM new
wrong again sybil.
I posted the other topics so we could TRY and get you and kiara over your daily obsession with me.
Making EVERY thread about me.
There ARE other subjects to be discussed.....just because you're crazy about me....and choose to focus on me each and every day 24/7 - doesn't mean everyone else does.
They're more mentally balanced than you.
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kiara with her prove it prove it prove it mantra. Gawd she really IS a parrot.
See kiara...as explained to you over and over and over again. I don't need to PROVE it to anyone. Those who have previous read your LYING personal statements about me have already seen them
Those like your sick friend, sybil, could see them a million times and still deny they exist...just like you do each and every day.
Try and not act AS obsessed with me EACH DAY....you're starting to look more and more inbalanced....like sybil long has.
you two really need to EXPAND your horizons.....get on to at least ONE other issue in your daily lives.....
posted on May 22, 2007 12:14:41 PM newI don't need to PROVE it to anyone.
Translated: Once again I was talking out of my ass about Kiara and things I was clueless over and got caught. So maybe if I throw a huge screaming fit that takes up the rest of the page and pretend I'm the victim no one will notice.
posted on May 22, 2007 12:44:32 PM new
Does it matter that much to you how I choose to spend my days? Yesterday was a holiday in Canada but I worked very hard and decided to take today off instead and do almost nothing while I catch up on things around the house. My job allows me great freedom.
(Even though someone else here is hell bent on 'making it known what my opinion is worth' because she has decided she knows more about me than I do which was probably her attitude towards others in her group encounters too).
