laptopper
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posted on May 4, 2001 07:36:24 PM new
I listed about 100 items last night and by today there had been 35 or so bids. One item had 4 bids. 2 from one user and 2 from another. The high bidder has "private" feedback--which I have never seen in one of my own auctions, so I took a look and saw that he has 285 positives, 3 neutrals and 0 negs. So why private?
I sent this e-mail:
Hi,
You have a bid in on one of my auctions, and I was wondering why your fedback profile is "private"?
I noticed you don't even have any negatives, so why private?
Thanks
His reply:
Sorry about that. I forgot that I had any bids out. I only do EBAY in the
beginning of the year to "pay my taxes". I thought I was done. In any case,
you are right I do not have any negatives. You can be confident with me.
Thanks!
my reply:
Hi again,
You placed a bid today at x:xx PM (eastern) on the following item: XXXXXXXX(Item # xxxxxxx)
Your answer didn't really address my question; Since you don't have any
negs, then why is your feedback private?
Thanks
*************
Now, what do you think? What a strange and cryptic reply for such a simple question.
I initially thought this wasn't any big deal, but that reply really made me start to wonder what's going on with this guy.
Ideas?
[ edited by laptopper on May 4, 2001 07:39 PM ]
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dubyasdaman
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posted on May 4, 2001 07:40:31 PM new
Why waste time checking your bidders' feedback profiles? Why waste even more time trying to find out why his is private when he has zero negs?
I never even look at my bidders' feedback profiles and judging from the posts on this board I have fewer problems than average.
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loosecannon
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posted on May 4, 2001 07:40:32 PM new
Could be that he has been buying items that he is embarrassed about, and doesn't want anyone to see item numbers, and he doesn't want to explain the real reason?
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laptopper
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posted on May 4, 2001 07:56:19 PM new
loosecannon:
Good point. You may have something there.
dubyasdaman:
Your ID says it all.
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dubyasdaman
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posted on May 4, 2001 08:18:45 PM new
laptopper:
Thank you. Compliments are few on these boards and I appreciate them when they are given.
On the other hand, if it wasn't meant as a compliment, I still thank you because it was was taken as such.
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sulyn1950
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posted on May 4, 2001 08:28:03 PM new
Just curious...if he emails back "none of your business" will you cancel his bid????
Seriously, since he also sells he may have private FB due to what he sells.
There is a seller of high-end collectibles who holds only "(private)" auctions.
Their FB is private too... after all, it would defeat the purpose of holding a private auction if the bidders ID's showed up in the FB along with a link to the item they bought.
From what I can see of their FB, they do a great deal of repeat business. I guess their "clients" approve of the system.
edited to offer a posible reason for private FB
[ edited by sulyn1950 on May 4, 2001 08:40 PM ]
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Microbes
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posted on May 4, 2001 08:28:04 PM new
>dubyasdaman:
Your ID says it all.
>if it wasn't meant as a compliment
I would venture a guess that that would depend on if you like Slick Willie, or Baby Bush 
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shaani
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posted on May 4, 2001 08:35:37 PM new
He did answer your question in a way by assuring you that he has no negatives. He does have 285 positives so why even question it? He did say to be confident and he most likely means it.
I have dealt with private feedback bidders and have never had a problem with them.
I would be tempted to e-mail you back and tell you to mind your own business if I had received the second e-mail from you. After all, ebay does allow the option of having private feedback.
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laptopper
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posted on May 4, 2001 08:57:01 PM new
shaani:
And I have the option of blowing off any buyer I don't want to be involved with. If someone inquired as to why I had private feedback, I would totally understand their concern. Why? Because whether or not Ebay allows it, it is still a red flag.
Nothing wrong with a little discretion.
[ edited by laptopper on May 4, 2001 08:58 PM ]
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tomwiii
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posted on May 4, 2001 09:00:11 PM new
laptopper: why look for problems? Sounds like much ado about nothing!
little freudian slip hee hee
[ edited by tomwiii on May 4, 2001 09:01 PM ]
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laptopper
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posted on May 4, 2001 09:01:29 PM new
dubyasdaman:
Both Slick Willie and that dunce you so proudly refer to with your ID are a disgrace.
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shaani
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posted on May 4, 2001 09:08:16 PM new
laptopper--quick edit on your part.
discretion:
1. ability to avoid offense: the good judgment and sensitivity needed to avoid embarrassing or upsetting others.
So what is the "red flag"? That he may bid higher and pay more money? He has lots of positives.
(I saw that little freudian slip hee hee)
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morgantown
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posted on May 4, 2001 09:08:26 PM new
I can understand checking the bidder's feedback numbers; however, writing the person was out of line. You did it twice! Had I been this bidder, I would have canceled my bid on your auction pronto.
He/she had fine feedback just what were you worried about??? Some bidders do not want personal/private details spilled over a page. And that is their perogative!
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dubyasdaman
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posted on May 4, 2001 09:09:08 PM new
laptopper:
I agree completely with half of that statement.
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skyline8
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posted on May 4, 2001 09:30:25 PM new
dubyasdaman - You DA MAN!!
Not skyline8 on eBay.
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LilRedDog
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posted on May 4, 2001 09:34:27 PM new
Hello,
I have had bidders with private feedback and no negatives before. It hasn't hurt the sale. In one case the person was a great customer. Other times they are normal.
I think if maybe they bid on adult auctions, or auctions where they are shadowed they may want to be private.
If you have one with a bunch of negatives then of course be concerned, but in this tough market you have to learn to make lemonade.
Too much worry takes the fun out of ebay.
Rou
Peace! I don't like the prez, but Dubyasdaman has some good stuff. Besides I always say "Dub Ya Damon" to "ease the pain" hee hee hee!
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laptopper
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posted on May 5, 2001 11:28:07 AM new
Morgantown:
I was out of line for inquiring about something that concerned me about one of my bidders? Get real. I hope you get royally screwed by a buyer. With that careless attitude of yours, you'll deserve it.
As a buyer and a seller, if I have a question, I ask. It's called COMMUNICATION.
What are you so afraid of?
P.S. After realizing that his feedback may have been private because of some embarassing items, I e-mailed the guy back and told him to disregard my inquiry. I said the fact that he has no negs is the point.
He responded cordially that he understood and it was no big deal anyway.
Again---it's called COMMUNICATION.
[ edited by laptopper on May 5, 2001 11:33 AM ]
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sulyn1950
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posted on May 5, 2001 11:40:30 AM new
laptopper- Did he reply to your second email? If not, are you going to cancel?
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pattaylor
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posted on May 5, 2001 11:50:28 AM new
laptopper,
Your comment to Morgantown was insulting and a violation of our Community Guidelines. To continue to post in this manner will place your posting privileges in jeopardy. Please keep this in mind as you continue to post.
Thanks for your cooperation.
Pat
[email protected]
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laptopper
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posted on May 5, 2001 12:21:14 PM new
sulyn1950:
I addressed that just above...
He responded cordially that he understood and it was no big deal anyway.
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Capriole
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posted on May 5, 2001 12:40:17 PM new
laptopper
do you want opinions or do you want to berate those who disagree with you?
Yes I know moderator...but it goes to the nature of the discussion, your honor!
I would let it ride. The fact that he answered your email with such a mellow attitude is a good indicator.
I was shorted a buck by a customer and mentioned that it was no problem, etc. I get a 50 line diatribe about how she isn't trying to gyp me. yoish!
Like Lilreddog said, some folks just want privacy.
The proof is in the payment.
Best of Luck!
ps it's called O-y V-e-y! You're making yourself insane. Why worry a bidder like a dog on a bone? I'm not afraid, just S-E-N-S-I-B-L-E.
[ edited by Capriole on May 5, 2001 05:50 PM ]
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laptopper
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posted on May 5, 2001 02:44:49 PM new
What is everyone so afraid of?
It's like I'm the bad guy just for asking a question! It was no big deal to the buyer. As a matter of fact, the 2 bidders had another round today and the item has only risen in price. So OBVIOUSLY I know how to handle people.
It's common sense: If I made my feedback private, I would expect some sellers to at least inquire as to WHY. If someone wants to do business with me and MY feedback is sitting there for their perusal, why shouldn't I have that same advantage. Silly me I guess.
Once again, it's called
C-O-M-M-U-N-I-C-A-T-I-O-N.
[ edited by laptopper on May 5, 2001 02:49 PM ]
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shaani
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posted on May 5, 2001 03:16:18 PM new
"What is everyone so afraid of?"
Obviously after checking your bidder's positive feedback I wouldn't be afraid of anything so I wouldn't take the time to e-mail him and start asking nosy questions.
The title of this thread was "Opinions PLEASE..." You asked for our thoughts but I guess if we don't agree with the way you choose to handle things we are all wrong. Sorry that some of us choose to think differently than you do.
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laptopper
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posted on May 5, 2001 07:32:42 PM new
Geeez, who appointed YOU president of this thread?
I hate it when people like you decide to speak for everyone by using the cowardly "we". Speak for yourself ONLY. I don't care if everyone agrees with you or not, JUST SPEAK FOR YOURSELF ONLY.
Also, anyone who has a CLUE (hint, hint) knows that the devil is in the neutrals and negs---NOT the positives. Some of the WORST users and abusers on Ebay DO have POSITIVES. Positives are easy, in that MOST transactions go smoothly. I want to know about the few times where things DON'T go smoothly. THAT is where you find out what to expect from a buyer or seller.
It is only fair for a seller to be able to view the feedback of someone bidding on their items. If not, then the seller would be justified in banning that bidder. I am up-front with my bidders regarding MY feedback. I expect no less than the same consideration in return. To criticize that approach is assinine.
It's all about operating in good faith.
Think much?
[ edited by laptopper on May 5, 2001 07:44 PM ]
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mikeljfoxx
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posted on May 5, 2001 08:06:52 PM new
Well, Lapdancer, next time you start a thread, make it clear that it's not OTHER people's opinions you want, it's YOUR opinion that you want EVERYONE to agree with.
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shaani
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posted on May 5, 2001 08:12:34 PM new
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Microbes
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posted on May 5, 2001 08:13:54 PM new
shaani:
>(I saw that little freudian slip hee hee)
I didn't, but I have a good imagination
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laptopper
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posted on May 5, 2001 08:28:17 PM new
Oh I see, mikeljfruitcake, I can be criticized and am not to defend myself or offer explanation? Oh yeah, that'll happen.
Next time you respond to a thread, make it clear to the original poster that they are not to react in an unfavorable way to anything you say, or you'll whine like a baby.
[ edited by laptopper on May 5, 2001 08:33 PM ]
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SmittyAW
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posted on May 5, 2001 08:32:01 PM new
Everyone..
Please address the topic and not each other according to the Comminity Guidelines.To continue to do so will put your posting privileges in jeopardy.
Smitty
[email protected]
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vargas
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posted on May 5, 2001 08:36:43 PM new
Hi Smitty! Why not lock this thread? It's obvious the originator really doesn't want anyone's opinion but his own -- and it's really going nowhere but downhill.
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