posted on December 12, 2000 04:02:06 AM
FrannyS - So are you Maui? (The fun lady who brought life to the AW RT? - the one who nicknamed it 'the back forty'?) OR as I took kitsch1's post, you aren't Maui but Shar9 just called you by her name by mistake?
posted on December 12, 2000 06:24:32 AM
LindaK, I believe Franny's name is Franny. I've gotten email from her, and she is a lovely lady as is Maui, both of whom contribute a lot to the pleasant atmosphere at this board.
it's offtopic, but I feel lucky to have gotten to know Franny and Maui, I wish maui posted more...
ok, sorry for the diversion, back to breastfeeding, I really do think 6 years is a bit old. I've also heard the statistic that the average worldwide of weaning is about around 4 years, and certainly by 5.
The insistence on breastfeeding at a late age when the child doesn't want to taken together with the co-sleeping could be signs of a very unhealthy emotional enmeshment by the mother with the child and please at a minimum get some counseling!
posted on December 12, 2000 06:33:28 AM
enchanted - Thank you for responding, but I'm asking FrannyS for an answer. You may be in one of the email groups, but some of us are not. I'm don't think it's unreasonable to ask, as many here post under more than one userid.
posted on December 12, 2000 06:57:09 AM
I don't know who FrannyS is but I don't think she is Maui. Hell, the topics alone tell me that!
I DO know Shar, she is my BEST cyber friend and I can assure everyone she is terrible with names. She has emailed me and used Kris and another couple of names but she knows it is me she is emailing. We often tease each other that between us (if we share) we may have a whole brain. It's a bummer when that estrogen loss depletes the brain cells
I may even be responsible for her faux pas, we had just exchanged an email before her post where Maui's name was mentioned and it may have been stuck for a minute
(and her name was mentioned in a very nice way!)
Now, back to the topic at hand.
I will state my opinion in one brief paragraph ...
I think that 6 years old is way too old to be breast feeding. I would say that once a baby is toilet trained that would be the time to wean the child to drinking from a cup. I think breast feeding is wonderful, excellent and I applaud women who do try it but I think that a child goes through developmental stages and that weaning is one of them. Even animals wean their young from the breast at a certain stage.
affirmation comes from within ...
not at the expense of another.
posted on December 12, 2000 07:20:59 AM
Hi enchanted,
I sure am trying to feel better, but sometimes my body just won't listen to my brain
Good to see you!
I think it must have been the last straw. I know that prior to that Maui also believed that her computer had been hacked and she was also very concerned about her eBay business as she was not anonymous on these boards.
I don't know if Maui is posting here under another name or not, I've not had an e-mail from her since that thread. However, if she is, why can't she be left to be post anonymously (if that is her wish) in peace?
posted on December 12, 2000 09:17:35 AMI don't know if Maui is posting here under another name or not, I've not had an e-mail from her since that thread. However, if she is, why can't she be left to be post anonymously (if that is her wish) in peace?
I know your comments are addressed to LindaK--who, BTW, has every right to raise the question--but it wasn't LindaK who may have compromised Maui's privacy. It was shar9, who hasn't posted again in this thread.
If the poster we know as "Maui" is now posting here as "FrannyS," and shar9 knew this, what shar9 is doing is called "publicity." It argues against a presumed wish to "post anonymously." And, absurd as it may seem in light of the purported causes of departure of the known name, it's happened before.
http://www.auctionwatch.com/mesg/read.html?num=28&id=33403&thread=32388
(my post of October 7, at 9:00:42 AM)
posted on December 12, 2000 09:40:12 AM
You've lost me, Pareau. Are saying that if I knew your real name and posted it here that it could be argued as evidence that YOU don't wish to post post anonymously????
It was also YOU Pareau who made sure (in your post) that Maui's name was kept visible (or publicized as you call it) in this thread even when Shar9 corrected her error.
posted on December 12, 2000 10:33:31 AM
You're not making sense, Irene. I never mentioned "real names" or referred to them; why are you?
I didn't notice that shar9 had altered her original post. The edit itself didn't answer the question LindaK asked, but FrannyS has. In light of that, perhaps kitsch can explain why she had to tell me that I "know" "franny," who's been registered here for less than a month (during which time I've been pretty absent), and what self harm has to do with anything.
posted on December 12, 2000 11:17:28 AM
Hi Pareau,
I have not posted here this morning. No big secret though or at least I didn't mean for it to be, I went back to bed this morning.
This is the place that I would put a big red faced smiley if I knew how to do it because this is embarrassing to me and not the first nor sadly the last that I have done this type of thing.
I don't need a reason to do what I did. It just happens. I seem to have this penchant for getting names wrong or torturing a name or the spelling. The list is long. I think I also called Franny, Fanny once or twice but what Nobs said is true. I have also thought that a he was a she and vice versa and have been red faced at that too.
Last night after I made my post I saw your mention of what I did. I went back then and corrected my mistake. End of subject for me, that is why I thanked you or I meant to if I didn't.
I have no earthly idea what you are talking about but I do not care for "publicity". I have never felt the need for publicity or lime light. I have just been enjoying posting here at AW. I also enjoy the people here.
posted on December 12, 2000 11:49:40 AMFrannyS - Thank you for answering a simple question with a simple answer.
Stockticker - Irene - Thanks for sharing that thread, I hadn't seen it before. I also wasn't aware that Maui/Mauimoods was concerned about or had problems with her computer possibly being hacked. That's why I couldn't figure out why Maui would be posting under a different name, if it were Maui. Also, a few AW users have changed their names and I wondered if maybe Maui had done the same thing, and I just wasn't aware. That's why I asked...to clarify.
To answer your question, '...if she is, why can't she be left to post anon, in peace?' I'm pretty sure you aren't saying I didn't have a right to question whether or not Shar9 meant Maui or FrannyS that I shouldn't have tried to clarify for the issue for myself. I would only wish Maui peace and happiness, and anonymity if that's what she chooses. I choose to post anonymously, so I certainly don't feel others shouldn't have that right.
FrannyS Please forgive me for interrupting your breastfeeding thread, with what I thought was a simple question.
posted on December 12, 2000 12:37:01 PM
This might be a dumb question, but why is it so important to know who who is? Arent most of the people here anonymous? Yes, I have lurked for months and no, FrannyS is not my ebay name. If I decided I wanted to be something other than FrannyS, for example "RoadRunner", would it be proper board etiquette to tell the people here that I am now "RoadRunner" versus FrannyS? Im just curious as to the ins and outs of this, so can someone enlighten me? I was also under the impression that AW only allowed one user name.
Pyth00n, I figured Jay or someone would have a field day with that story, lol!
[ edited by FrannyS on Dec 12, 2000 12:38 PM ]
posted on December 12, 2000 01:27:18 PM
FrannyS, AW allows you to post messages with only one name. You could be FrannyS on the message board and have a second account for listing auctions as, say, RoadRunner. As long as you did not post as both "FrannyS" and "RoadRunner," there wouldn't be a problem.
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[ edited by SilkMoth on Dec 12, 2000 01:29 PM ]
posted on December 12, 2000 01:39:47 PM
Thanks for the info SilkMoth. But what about the etiquette part? I guess what I want to know is, IF I changed my name, would it be proper to say so to those who I have been posting with? Im confused, because if I wanted to be anon, then is that ok? Or do people "respect" posters more if they know who the poster "is"? (Getting off topic of Breastfeeding, but this whole thing has me wondering now). Kistch, I dont think its me that is being picked over. I think its the other person thought to be me, of the concept of the person having a new name, which leads to the question asked above).
[ edited by FrannyS on Dec 12, 2000 01:41 PM ]
posted on December 12, 2000 01:44:25 PM
Now look what y'all have done. Dad(aka Pattaylor ) came in and yelled at us.
Sounds to me like that mother has more than a few screws loose. For that kids' sake, I hope she gets into some therapy. Heck, the kid probably needs therapy, too.
posted on December 12, 2000 02:24:42 PM
Hi Kel, FrannyS, S-kitty,
I must be in a silly mood today ... all I can think about is that womans nipples ... must be a little like leather by now!
posted on December 12, 2000 02:35:13 PM
back off topic for one moment only, I promise.
FrannyS, it's been done both ways. There have been people here who came in and announced "I used to be _________, but I've changed my user name to ________." And there are those who just quietly changed, possibly in order to be anonymous. Some of the second group might have then emailed close friends to say, "Hey, look for me as ________ from now on, but don't let on that I've changed my name."
I don't know that there is an accepted "etiquette" about the situation. Maybe some of you who've been here longer than I have could say?
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posted on December 12, 2000 06:59:39 PMWhat a piece of work.
Just what I thought when I got your nastygram, kitsch. AFAIC, sending me ugly gossipmongering about this person goes way beyond any "picking over" happening here in the clean light of day. Keep your sneaky pot stirring to yourself.
posted on December 12, 2000 07:32:52 PM
To the topic...OUCH! Beyond that, I don't know if this is "abuse" or not...I really don't think any of us have the sort of knowledge of this family's situation or values to make that call. Personally...I think 6 years is about 5 years overlong for nursing a child, but that's my own perspective from my situation and values. It concerns me that this opens a door to further legislative or legal restrictions on matters which, in my opinion, should be a parental decision; however, I am sensitive to the need for a certain intrusiveness into parental behavior, for absent that, we return to a time of genuine and unrestrained freedom to abuse (in ways that most of society DOES recognize and accept as "abusive"--such as physical and psychological abuse).
And to the subtopic: Shar, your posting mix-ups have been a subject of much fun for me over the last year! Of course, I'm just crazy for the "husband" you gave me (way back when). Here's to ya!
posted on December 12, 2000 07:41:59 PM
Thanks for putting this back on topic, hellcat. I was afraid I would have had to ask it to be closed down, but wasnt sure how to do that. I think its run its course anyway, but if we all can get back to it, then I will leave it alone for now.
posted on December 12, 2000 08:20:05 PM
It was not nasty and it was not gossip. It was me asking you as an anonymous poster to leave it alone. Frannys has a copy and I garandamntee you that she knows there was no nasty gossip in it.
liar
Sorry franny
Moderator I'll take that warning now, but I cant let someone lie and try to twist things to make it look bad without saying something.
[ edited by kitsch1 on Dec 12, 2000 08:23 PM ]
posted on December 12, 2000 08:28:23 PM
No, I'm not lying. I don't know what you stuck in her mailbox, but you had no right to put that crap in mine. I don't even know you, and never invited such garbage. Ugly, pot-stirring gossipmongering you sent, kitsch, and that is not a lie. I'd hope you'd think long and hard before you foist that stuff on a complete stranger again.
Of course, I'm just crazy for the "husband" you gave me (way back when). Here's to ya! 