posted on August 11, 2004 11:18:08 AM
Your neighbor's child has mastered the art of manipulation; his parents, you and your child. This approach has proven effective in his home environment and as he ventures forth into the world he will most likely continue this manipulation whenever the situation allows it to manifest.
It is evident that he is after something that is missing from his home environment, and you are providing this 'something' to a degree. Since you have mentioned that you have become this child's 'daycare' that is the instrument to modify his behavior.
He prefers your environment to his, otherwise he wouldn't want to spend so much of his time with you. If he fails to adhere to your rules continue to deprive him of your environment and it's rewards, don't falter in your commitment, no returning in a few hours or repeated warnings. He may never behave at home, however, he can learn to behave in a reasonable fashion while away.
Keep the the issues you have with the parents separate from your dealings with the child, they are a done deal the kid still has a chance. I agree with Helen, let your child interact and deal with it. Many of life's most important lessons are learned in Sandbox 101.
posted on August 11, 2004 11:35:39 AM
I would absolutely forbid anymore play inside, outside, at your place, at Joe's.......period. It's a good thing that your child is 4 and you have control. From what you've described you have a parental resonsibility to keep your son away from possible harm, physical or emotional, and from what you've described this situation is a powderkeg.
posted on August 11, 2004 11:40:09 AM
Send your boy to visit grandparents for a few days, what fun! This breaks the routine they have/will establish. You don't have to explain anything to the neighbors. Our new religion forbids certain things, have you heard the word of God? Watch them run, not walk, for the nearest exit.
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