posted on May 13, 2001 09:39:42 AM new
Celebrate this day for whatever reasons you may have, here's wishing you a happy day. (thought I would represent those who are like me).
posted on May 13, 2001 10:04:51 AM new
Hi Hepburn. I don't have a mother either. Only had one for two years of my life. BUT, I AM a mother and this is the one day I get to do nothing.. Heck, even the coffee was made when I woke up this morning, and I'm the only one in the house that drinks it! Yep, I like this day!
posted on May 13, 2001 10:34:26 AM new
For anyone who no longer has a mother, I will gladly serve as the Official Auction Watch Round Table Mother of the Day.
I don't celebrate it either, for various private reasons. I hope you have a great day anyway, in your own way. And all of the other Ladies that are/aren't Mothers, also have a fine day.
posted on May 13, 2001 02:49:01 PM new
Hope you have a good day too, hepburn.
I don't exactly love this day myself.
I'm a mom, but spoiled I'm not. Have had damn bandage on my right (read: useful) hand for four days and unable to do anything, and I still did more today as far as tending to food and cleaning than the rest of them combined.
posted on May 13, 2001 03:02:36 PM new
I'll opt for celebrating my first day back at work (says she typing one-handed while juggling the boy in the other!)
Of course, I'll probably be wishing I wasn't before my shift is over...
posted on May 13, 2001 04:57:27 PM newHepburn - better all the time. Took the big bandage off now, so I have some more use in the hand, but it is one fugly thing! (Didja know that bandaids, no matter how big they may be, just don't stick to the palm of your hand very well?) Lots of colors to it, and beautiful black stitches too. Blech. BUT...I now have feeling in my two middle fingers that I haven't had for months. Trade off, I guess.
It's almost 7 PM here, so I think it's safe to come out now. I'd call it over.
Kris
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posted on May 13, 2001 06:35:58 PM new
I don't have my mom anymore, but I am a mom and I love this day! My children are thankful they had be back for one more Mother's Day at least.
To all that lost their mom's - we can be thankful we had them for however long God let us.
To all that don't appreciate their mom's - you never do until they're gone forever.
Michelle, wait til you're first grocery shopping expedition with your new baby and without help. It's amazing how we can learn to juggle grocery bags in one hand, a baby in the other and still open the door to the house without dropping either. Women are the only ones who can do this feat.
posted on May 13, 2001 06:42:49 PM new
mtnmama, Im happy this day was good for you. But for those of us who DO have our moms still "with us", it only hurts more when they (me) think of other moms who WERE moms; children visiting those mothers; the dinners and laughter; the love; the comraderie of family together to celebrate motherhood. Some of us dont have that, nor ever had it. So to assume that I will miss my mother when shes gone is wrong. I wont. And Im fully aware of what I am saying. Yes, I will cry when she dies. But not because of what was. I will cry because of what WASNT and what I wanted so badly that she wouldnt give me, or couldnt give me.
Im GLAD this day is almost over. For me. For you out there, Im happy for you, and Im just alittle envious too. And no, this isnt a sympathy thing. Its just the facts on this end. (Fathers day is another matter...THAT one I will celebrate ).
[ edited by Hepburn on May 13, 2001 06:56 PM ]
posted on May 13, 2001 07:06:09 PM new
I'm in between, my mother is gone, and I'm not a mother; I went grocery shopping today. I loved my mother and respected her, but there wasn't a tight bond. I can't have children, but hope to adopt this year. Mother's day just isn't my favorite holiday.
Gee I'm sorry I guess I misunderstood when you said:
"Celebrate this day for whatever reasons you may have, here's wishing you a happy day. (thought I would represent those who are like me)."
No where in that statement could one even surmise what you were referring (to).
I know I wasn't alone, because others stated basically the same thing I did.
I'm sure we didn't mean any harm to you. But I would not negate people's happiness because I couldn't/wouldn't have what they have.
Sorry you feel you have a terrible mother. Some are great, some not so. Some give their kids up at birth. My husband's biological mother did this, but he makes the best of it with his nasty miserable adopted mother.
I don't know your age or marital status or why you don't have children (none of my business) but sometimes in life, we have to take the lemons and make lemonade. Sometimes it takes the child to say "I'm sorry you feel this way and I love you." If she wouldn't give you, she may. If she couldn't give you, then this would be a blessing for you to do.
Of course, I don't know you or your circumstances, but I'm just telling you what has been done in the past and what has worked. A mother is a mother and no matter how much they try to say they're not, they are for life.
I wish you luck. It's hard to go through life being cynical.
posted on May 14, 2001 07:38:04 AM new
Cynical? Yes, perhaps so. Looks like you can have a piece of that title too, mtnmama. Try lecturing susan smith. I think she needs it a bit more than I do. Oh, Im sorry...her kids could have said "Im sorry mommy" and all would have been better, eh?
posted on May 14, 2001 08:21:32 AM new
Well for one the topic says "for those who don't"
For those who don't like their mothers for whatever reason, I'm sorry.
For those mothers who don't love their children for whatever reason, I'm sorry.
For those who have lost their mothers to death, I am truly sorry.
I'm not cynical, I see both sides of the coin and where does Susan Smith enter into this? Why bring her into this? Those were not two adult children. I assumed we were speaking of adults and mothers here.
I'm not going to say I'll give up my joy and happiness on mother's day because I lost my mother! I'm going to say I'll enjoy it because God saw it to give me two of my own, whom I cherish and adore. And the feeling is very mutual.
I have an uncle who was adopted out of an orphanage and he never wanted children because he never wanted to die and leave them. Well, he deprived his wife of being a mother and deprived himself of being a father and he's 90 and still going strong. That is very selfish IMO.
But to keep on topic, it's very selfish for those who have abusive/nasty/uncaring parents to deny others the happiness they have, especially when the people enjoying it had nothing to do with the abuse/nastiness/
uncaring whatever the person is enduring.
I told Hepburn I was sorry I misunderstood her initial post. Evidently that wasn't good enough.
posted on May 14, 2001 08:31:09 AM new
Mtnmama, I dont begrudge anyone having a mothers day or celebrating it. There was quite a few threads for that purpose. But some people DONT celebrate it. Why should they have to feel alone? Why should I pretend to like a day when I dont, because its the "politically correct" thing to do?
Sara, mtnmama and I are EXPLAINING to each other. If you would allow us to do so, perhaps we could resolve it ourselves, dontcha think? I WILL address her, and she me, because we are two adults agreeing to disagree and explaining what we are saying to each other in an adult manner. Wanna suspend me for continuing to DISCUSS in a PUBLIC forum where POSTERS POST? Go ahead.
posted on May 14, 2001 09:07:26 AM new
Thank you Sara. Maybe I should just take a walk, go to the Post Office, get things ready for the next sale instead of carrying on with this.
Mtnmama, I did not go into the other threads with my views of Mothers day. It was to show respect to those who do have what others dont. I started this one for those who may feel like I do. Now with that said, Im off to do all the above. Have a nice day.
posted on May 14, 2001 09:07:58 AM new
Thanks Sara and thanks also for sending me my post on the other deleted thread! I appreciate it.
I apologized and when I went back the thread was locked. But now it's open so here's our continued discussion.
I can see where you're coming from, but please try to see what I was saying, without bringing misfits like Susan Smith into it.
We both know there's a lot of child abuse and even adult abuse in this world. We agree on that.
But, let's just try to agree that some people prefer to celebrate mother's day and are happy and others aren't. You like father's day, right? I have a friend who can't even say the words to her own father, yet it's because of nothing he's done. It's all her and her attitude. She'll tell you he's been the best father he knows how to be, yet she hates him with a passion. I can't figure it out and honestly, I don't think she can either.
BUT, I AM a mother and this is the one day I get to do nothing..
Heck, even the coffee was made when I woke up this morning, and I'm the only one in the house that drinks it! Yep, I like this day! 
