posted on October 22, 2001 06:49:51 PM
I sent this to my annoying bidder (was in earlier post): Hello,
>
>It is nice to hear back from you, although, as I had not received a response
>from you concerning my previous offer I obviously took the liberty of
>relisting the print. As you made mention in your previous email, yes, I did
>revise my listing to ensure that there would be no confusion as to whether
>the print is framed or not. BTW, it is nice of you to take notice of my new
>listing! And again, I am sorry that we got off on the wrong foot and were
>unable to complete our transaction. Thank you for being flexible and
>understanding.
>
>I have also been thinking about my previous offer to leave positive feedback
>regarding this transaction. After thoroughly considering it, I have come to
>the conclusion that it is best if neither of us leave feedback for one
>another. Per ebay, "If you're a winning bidder or seller in an eBay
>transaction, you can leave feedback for your trading partner". Since we did
>not complete our transaction, you did not end up purchasing the print from
>me and I did not end up selling the print to you. Therefore, we are not
>"trading partners". I do not believe it would be right to leave feedback on
>an exchange of goods that never took place. To do otherwise would constitute
>false feedback. I believe it would be best if we simply don't leave feedback
>regarding this auction. This is simply my opinion. Do you feel that we
>should leave feedback for one another? If you do, please feel free to leave
>me feedback and I will be happy to leave feedback in kind for you. However,
>I don't feel it is necessary or appropriate in this situation. I wish you
>the best of luck in your future ebay endeavors.
>
>Sincerely,
xxx
She sends me this today:
"yes please do still leave a positive comment for me and i will do the same for you. i think it is the least that can be done after the big mix up. you did after all offer and i would be very disappointed now if you didn't follow through with your promise. you shouldn't have mentioned it if you didn't intend to do it. i'll look for your reply."
Why can't she leave well enough alone??? I am sorry to keep posting about my petty problem here, but do you think she is trustworthy and will leave me a pos feedback?
I am inclined to email and tell her again if she wants to leave me feedback she can do so and I will then reciprocate...but not leaving feedback before her. She has a "0" now...what is my feedback going to gain her?
posted on October 22, 2001 07:11:20 PM
I think I am getting as annoyed as you are by this person and this whole thing! LOL! Yes I do have a temper problem.
My humble advice is to ignore this person and move on w/ your life. You've wasted enough time on a person who caused you grief. I still say, no way would I leave this person feedback first! I also would not e-mail them anymore. Ignore and move on!
posted on October 22, 2001 07:30:43 PM
#1...... she's pouting
#2...... she's gonna leave you a neg no matter what you do, ignore her and get on with your business. A perfect score is NOT perfect, it looks suspicious (kidding a little bit, but not much)
I am sorry to hear you're still having problems with this bidder. She is definately being difficult. I think part of the problem, however, was how you phrased your last e-mail to her. You did actually ask her for her opinion on leaving feedback. If you hadn't left this door open for her... there would have been no point for her to respond to your message. If you can learn one thing from this, let it be that you should never make premature promises or ask questions that you might not like answered. That said... I agree with the others. Ignore her.... and DON'T leave feedback. The minute you leave feedback for her, you are likely to get slapped with a negative. Also, make sure that she is placed on your blocked bidder list. If she continues to harrass you on e-mail, you can send a message to her and her ISP asking to stop any future correspondence from her. Hope everything works out for you!
posted on October 22, 2001 07:56:04 PM
Thanks for the input. I will heed the advice given and will not be leaving her any feedback unless she leaves it for me first. I do think she is out to tarnish my record. I am just getting really aggravated...if she negs me it will be totally undeserved. I have tried everything to accomodate her to no avail. Oh well....I am done worrying about it.
eauctionmgnt: you are right, I did not phrase the email very good, I did leave the door open. When I did that, I was being too nice and trying to tell her I will leave feedback, but only if she does so first. Stupid..stupid...stupid...I know. It won't happen in the future. BTW, she is on my blocked bidder list.
I have never had a problem bidder like this one. Most of my bidders are rational, literate bidders. This one makes me want to freakin scream.
