posted on July 19, 2005 08:43:33 PM new
Some of you might remember that I got engaged Christmas day. Well, we set our wedding date as July 29th which is our 5 year Anniversary.
The big day is almost here!! Luckily we are going the cheap as you can get route and not having a real wedding. We are going to Eureka Springs, Arkansas. This little town is popular for weddings. Kinda like Vegas but a whole lot closer. My fiance's sister and her husband got married there a couple of years ago.
I think the wedding jitters are going to hit me next week. So far I am OK.
posted on July 19, 2005 08:49:38 PM new
Congrats! The 25th is my 12th anniversary - I went the real wedding route (I was relatively young) and wish I would have gone the other route! It's not the ceremony that matters, but the person you are marrying. Our wedding sucked (very long story) but our marriage is great!
posted on July 19, 2005 08:55:06 PM new
Congratulations in advance to the two of you.
Ebayvet, I know what you mean. I would never have that formal wedding that we agonized and spent $$ over. NOT worth the trouble and expense, in my book. The marriage has lasted, though.
posted on July 19, 2005 08:59:36 PM new
Meowmix...You promised that you were going to marry ME. What happened? Did I get outbid by a sniper at the last minute?? Seriously, best of luck to you both. It takes a little getting used to, but after 25 years or so, those jitters will go away
A $75.00 solid state device will always blow first to protect a 25 cent fuse ~ Murphy's Law
posted on July 20, 2005 05:03:03 AM new
Ralphie & I are still waiting for my mail-order bride to arrive from Elbonia...
"I'm going to spend a lot of time on Social Security. I enjoy it. I enjoy taking on the issue. I guess, it's the Mother in me."—Guess Who? Washington D.C., April 14, 2005
posted on July 20, 2005 06:26:43 AM new
CONGRATULATIONS! (yes I am shouting)
In June we had our 38th anniversary. We had a very small wedding with about 30 guests. We were just out of graduate school with almost no money and I paid for it myself so it had to be simple. It was a great day I will always remember. I really don't think a cast of thousands would have made it better, just my family, his family, and a few friends. Make sure you have lots of pictures.
Best wishes for your future together! -----o----o----o----o----o----o----o----o
“The illiterate of the future will be the person ignorant of the use of the camera as well as of the pen.”
Maholy-Nagy, Vision in Motion, 1947
posted on July 20, 2005 07:24:11 AM new
Eureka Springs (Little Switzerland as some call it), is a very pretty place in the Ozark Mountains. One thing that they claim is that no streets intersect at right angles because of being so hilly. Also, they say it has one of the highest number of bed and breakfast inns per capita in the US! I'm sure you will enjoy it! Congrats!
[ edited by shawnb1 on Jul 20, 2005 07:25 AM ]
posted on July 20, 2005 01:32:28 PM new
My husband and I celebrate our 40th anniversary in November. We too had a small wedding, it was right after my nursing exam finals, and we paid for it ourselves, but it was what we wanted.
I hope you will have many happy years together!
posted on July 20, 2005 01:35:01 PM new
Okay, time for some truth-telling. I may be the oldest (but still smart) person on this board. We married right out of college and will celebrate 46 years of Wedded Mostly-Bliss in August. Any takers for the grand prize?
I've been hoping you'd all think of me as a cute blond chick in her 30s but now I've outted myself.
posted on July 20, 2005 01:53:34 PM new
Roadsmith: Congratulations! That is quite an acheivement these days. My husband's parents celebrated their 70th anniversary a few months before his Dad died a couple of years ago.
posted on July 20, 2005 05:17:43 PM new
Thanks, Amber. Lord knows we've worked on it. Our first year was quite an adjustment but we got through it. And we were fortunate, in our 30s, back when we still attended church (!), to fall in with a group of young marrieds who wanted to get together and discuss marriage issues that can come up. We met every Friday night (yes, Friday!) for several years; weathered some storms among our friends, learned a lot about communication, saw two deaths in the group (a 12-year-old son and a wife), went through so much with each other--and we're still close by phone and e-mail. Some nights we'd go from 8 to 10, some nights until 3 a.m. if something really tough had come up. And sometimes we called in a professional.
We were VERY lucky to have that group of friends. I wish every young couple did.
I used to think that old couples just grew to hate each other's faces, because I'd seen so many cranky older folks. It does not have to be that way; we're closer each year.
posted on July 20, 2005 07:48:48 PM new
Thanks everyone for the congrats. I'm so happy that there are several of you who have been married forever. It seems rare these days. This is my first marriage as well as my fiances. I am hoping and praying that we will have a long life together like many of you all.
posted on July 21, 2005 08:09:11 AM new
What beautiful words, LtRay. I've copied them to save.
There have been little irritants in my married life but nothing major. He's never yelled at me or struck me. He values my opinions, respects me, and supports me in anything I've ever wanted to do (change jobs, run for office, etc.). This good and faithful man has been a wonderful addition to my life and a great complementary balance to my own skills and personality. I've reminded myself many times over the years that the little quirks would be missed if he were suddenly gone. And all I wished for our daughters was that they could marry someone like their father. One did, one didn't, and the one who didn't is now getting a divorce.
posted on July 21, 2005 10:45:43 AM new
Amber and Roadsmith,
I was thinking that 38 was a long time but you two got the better of me.
Meowmix,
In my opinion, the best way to keep the marriage going for a long time is to be best friends with the person you are married to. There are some things we do not do together. I will never love football and I don't see the fascination of shortwave radio but we have a lot of activities we do together; antiquing, collecting, and research on the history of photography. None of these would be fun without him. Best wishes for a long and very happy marriage! -----o----o----o----o----o----o----o----o
“The illiterate of the future will be the person ignorant of the use of the camera as well as of the pen.”
Maholy-Nagy, Vision in Motion, 1947
posted on July 21, 2005 01:16:33 PM new
Yesterday was our 3rd anniversary although we have been together for 11 years! (it took him a while to say "I Do"
I went through all the anniversary cards at Hallmark and didn't like any of them - none of them really said how I feel about him.
I finally found one in the other section - call it sappy.
"When I look at you,
I thank God that I have a love who is true,
no matter what.
It's such a comfort to me
to have you in my life,
to know that when you say something,
it's the truth...
when you promise something,
it's as good as done.
I think a lot of people
expect being in love to be easy.
It's not something
they want to work at.
You and I have learned
pulling through hard times together
really brings two people close.
You've put my needs before your own
countless times,
given me your support
when you had concerns of your own
and survived my moods and my heartbreaks.
I know when I look at you tomorrow
I'll see the same person....
The most wonderful love
I could ever have."
Have a great honeymoon - it lasts much longer than the wedding
