posted on October 8, 2001 04:14:59 PM
Well, it's Thanksgiving today and I'm typing and feeling sorry for myself at the same time. I have a wonderful house, a great little car, 2 cats I cherish, a couple of close friends and you guys. So here goes.........my husband just left me. Not for another woman or anything, but to be on his own for a month or two, then he'd come back. (Along these lines anyway.) I spent most of the day helping him pack while crying like a 2 year old. We've talked about it recently and it made sense, but the actual doing it was sooo difficult. Problem is, is that we really love each other, but he has some 'issues' from his past, and we both agreed that he would need to leave to deal with them. Today just happened to be the day, so on one hand I feel extremely thankful, but I'm also as sad as can be. I think because of all the deaths in my family, I have some real trust issues of my own which just compounds my sad feelings. (I hate the word issues, just so you know.) I want to be mature about this, but I'm also feeling like there was a big loss of commitment to have this happen. I'm trying not to babble here.....I know there's a war going on, I know you ALL have your difficulties too, so this is more of a vent for me. I am thankful that I have you all to talk to. Believe it or not, you have all made such a big difference for me...for the way I think,.....the way I spell (thanks Toke!).....tolerance (thanks Shosh!).....politics (thanks KRS!).....determination (thanks SPAZ!) and just plain old kindness from the rest of you. Thanks, and thanks for listening to my spew.
posted on October 8, 2001 04:38:08 PM
If there is anything I can do, please feel free to e-mail me. Even if it is just the old proverbial shoulder to cry on.
posted on October 8, 2001 04:53:22 PMKrafty, girlfriend...I am so sorry it should happen at this time of year! But based on past conversations, I KNOW that you are strong...a little weakened at the moment, but not defeated...Email me again anytime you feel like it OK? My mail box is always open for you.
When push comes to shove, this IS a great place to share...
posted on October 8, 2001 09:29:15 PM{{{Kraftdinner}}}
I am very saddened to hear of your problems. If I can be of help, email me, too. Venting helps. And this is a wonderful place to vent. Many people here care ... and sometimes it really helps to have a variety of different opinions to keep you going.
To quote my dear mother, go ahead and cry ... somtimes it is what helps best. She is a very wise woman.
Then, dust yourself off, and count your blessings. If you get lonely, come here and type away. You have many friends here.
I do not know what is behind his actions, but have you two considered marriage counseling? Perhaps this time apart will make your hearts grow fonder.
I will be rooting for you .. and will keep you in my prayers.
posted on October 9, 2001 01:57:44 AM
kraftdinner,
I'm sorry to hear of your sadness.
I agree with MrsSC that this may be a time when you can both learn to appreciate each other again.
Once the initial shock wears off, you may find some things out about yourself that you'd forgotten. Maybe you'll dye your hair a different color or wear purple hats or dance in your underwear just because you feel like it and no one's there to watch.
posted on October 9, 2001 03:29:14 AM
I'm so sorry to hear about the problems you're having kraft. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your hubby as you work through this.
