posted on August 6, 2000 09:28:15 AM
I just read that someone's father is very ill, and wanted to make a place to bring wishes for health and recovery to him, and comfort to her. The best to them both, and to all fathers and the children who love them.
posted on August 6, 2000 10:02:49 AM
Seldom is anything in life as sweet to a child as the embrace of a loving father. My thoughts and prayers are with this family - and may they feel the loving embrace of God.
posted on August 6, 2000 06:37:32 PMPareau, I will go out on a limb, and say thank you for your good thoughts my way. I did post about my dad's health in a thread on EO.
My father is in stage IV congestive heart failure. There is nothing more his local cardiologist can do for him. On Tuesday, he'll be going to the Cleveland Clinic for a heart cath and other tests to see if he is suitable for one of 3-4 experimental type treatments.
In the mean time, my two brothers and one sister are trying to play nice. Why is it the older we get, the more immature we become??
posted on August 6, 2000 06:54:03 PM
Meya, Sorry to hear about your father. Will send postive energy and prayers your way. Hope all works out well. Keep us posted,OK?
posted on August 6, 2000 06:54:59 PM
Oh, Meya, my heart breaks for you. My father was diagnosed with the same problem a few years ago, and had three heart attacks in as many weeks. He'd suffered from asthma for over a decade, and it was assumed his lungs were in too poor condition to withstand the bypass that could help him. After the month in hospital, they were getting ready to send him home for whatever time he had left. Thank the sky and earth, one of the young cardiologists decided to run a few tests before they released him. It turned out that his lungs were in great shape, and the asthma was cardiac-induced--caused by the crummy heart performance, improperly diagnosed for years. One quadruple bypass later, and he was raring to go. He later got a defibrillator, and will probably outlive me.
I am telling you this just to let you know there is always hope, and that I can imagine how you feel right now and want you to know you have all my sympathy and best wishes. You and the rest of your family. Miracles happen, Meya, my father is proof. I will keep my fingers crossed for your father, too.
posted on August 6, 2000 09:23:53 PMMeya:Why is it the older we get, the more immature we become.
At our core we are all still children; maturity is just a facade that some can manage better than others. Being childlike can be a plus in life if wonder and laughter come easily, but the intense fear of a child always lies beneath as well. It is the inability of some adults to manage their fear that makes them seem so childish. Especially when a situation such as this affects you all, you would think, in the same fashion. Forgive them, be strong for them...and for your father. And take some care for yourself - it is an exhausting road. My "Well Father Thoughts" are being thought, and hope is present for some good news to come your way.
Pareau: What Barry said. This was a nice thing for you to do.
posted on August 6, 2000 09:38:30 PM
Great Starter pareau , and your own Father's story is an encouragement indeed to those who need every ounce of hope.
I'm delighted it went so well for him.
Meya : May every good wish find its way to You and Yours .
Help and Hope are girding up their loins to enter the fray . May you all win.
posted on August 7, 2000 04:01:56 AM
I appreciate everyone's good wishes for my dad. My sister and younger brother are all getting along, it is my older brother who seems bent on causing trouble. He is more scared than he will admit about our dad, since he is the one dragging all kind of baggage behind him.
My father's heart is so damaged due to years of smoking etc. He has never had by-pass surgery since it is not blocked arteries that are the problem. His heart at this point functions at 12% of normal, which means his blood pressure is very low, 90/40 on good days and less at times. His kidneys are not working right due to the decreased oxygen, as well as other problems from it as well.
They are doing study's using Left Ventricular Assist Devices in long term care. These are normally used to help keep a patient alive until a transplant becomes available. My dad is not a candidate for a transplant due to his age (71) and his other health problems. Anything they do for him at this point is last ditch and experimental.
We're thankful to have a World Class hospital like the Cleveland Clinic to go to. People come from all over the world to be treated there. They handle "the sickest of the sick" to quote the doctor he is seeing there. We'll know tonight around 7:00 p.m. what time we have to be there tomorrow. I doubt I'll have internet access, I don't have a modem card for my portable system, but perhaps there are terminals set up since it is such a huge place. I might teach hubby how to get here and post an update Tuesday night as I'll be staying in Cleveland a couple of days.
posted on August 7, 2000 05:16:47 AMMeya I'm so sorry to read that you are going through such a difficult time. I'm so glad that you have access to one of the better hospitals. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, and I'll light a candle for your dad. Hugs to you and yours.
posted on August 7, 2000 02:02:55 PM
I've set up our old portable system with free Juno web access, so I might be able to log on from the hotel and post updates about my dad. It only has a 28.8 modem, but it is an internal type so at least it works.
Thanks for the kind words.
[ edited by Meya on Aug 7, 2000 02:05 PM ]
posted on August 7, 2000 04:05:10 PMMeya
Good, healing thoughts and prayers for your Father and understanding, peaceful thoughts and prayers for you!
Hang in there and know that many care.
I hope that no one minds this, but I read on another board that someone else's Father may be in need of kind thoughts and prayers and I would like to send some his way also. (this person frequents this board occasionally and other OAI chat boards).
posted on August 7, 2000 04:07:06 PM
Meya: It's tough, I know, I've been there. If there are words that need to be said, I hope you have a chance to say them. I never did and that has always made me sad. My thoughts are with you.
Irene
[ edited by stockticker on Aug 7, 2000 04:08 PM ]
My sincere regards to you and your family at this time. I know it is a hard road but you can travel it and so can your father.
Stockticker,
You too? I didn't get a chance to say the words to my mother but made sure I said them as my father's time approached. I've always felt guilty for leaving the hospital the night she passed away.
I agree with the others that starting this thread was a nice thing to do. Let me tell you about another miracle.
On December 1, 1999 my father was rushed to the hospital because of spitting up blood. Two litres of it to be exact. He was quickly put in the intensive care unit and the series of tests was performed. We was told that he had a spot on his lung that was bleeding. Like meya's father he has smoked for many years with the same results as what she has posted. He stayed under for two weeks. He was released just right before Christmas and that was my Christmas present from God.
He has drank for many years also. Of course because of this he has major liver problems. We was told that he may live another three years upon his last release. It appears that the three years is about to become about 8 months.
It should be made law that the manufactures should mark every bottle of alcohol with that skull and cross bones symbol with poision directly beneath it because that is exactly what it is!
Meya
My warmest regards goes out to you. I know exactly what you are going through.
posted on August 8, 2000 06:10:23 AM
My prayers are with your father.
If your brother has issues with your father, encourage him to forget them for now. My brother refused to talk to my father for years after our parent's divorce. When Dad went to the hospital, he didn't come. Not until they called and said he was dying did my brother make the trip, and arrived minutes too late.
That is something he has had to live with. He also quit speaking to me, because I still was close to Dad, as well as our mother, so I don't know if it bothers him or not. But I suspect that it does. Encourage your brother to make up with your father, and enjoy the years they can still have together.
posted on August 8, 2000 06:17:51 AMVette I'm sorry to read that your father is ill also. I hope you and Meya both find the strength you need to get through such a trying time in your lives. Just know that many people are praying for you.
posted on August 8, 2000 06:44:19 AM
Meya - So very sorry to hear about your fathers failing health. This is never an easy time for anyone to go through. Good thoughts (and hopefulness) being sent your way.
I didn't know my father, and my step-father was a cruel man to me, but I did want to agree with what others here have suggested. Share with your father all the times he brought joy and love into your life. Share with him all the happy memories, he help create, and that you will carry with you for the rest of your life. Tell him how much he means to you. Forgive him for any pain and hurt you may have suffered (if there is a reason to) to his ears before he passes. He'll have these to remember should he have a miracle come into his prognosis.
I did this with both my Mother and Grandmother, before they passed and it brought enormous peace to me. And they shared how much it meant to them to have me say these things, even though my grandmother recovered (from her illness) for a short while. She always mentioned how much me saying those things made her feel my love and appreciation for what she had meant in my life.
I sincerely wish you and Vette peace in your hearts.
posted on August 8, 2000 11:46:58 AM
Vette,
I'd read of your father's problems elsewhere after I posted this thread, and am glad you've come on. I'm so sorry to learn he's ill, and how serious it is. I'll keep both of you in my thoughts.
Meya, I'm wishing comfort for you and your father, your sister and brothers, and support for you all as you go through this.
posted on August 8, 2000 01:09:13 PM
Your welcome, Vette, I am still keeping you, Meya and both of your Fathers in my prayers and I hope things are better for you soon.
