maggiemuggins
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posted on October 29, 2005 11:47:24 AM new
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replaymedia
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posted on October 29, 2005 11:50:44 AM new
It is a women's right to nag if the man buys something that isn't "just perfect" and exactly what the woman would have bought if she had been shopping herself.
'Nuff said.
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dadofstickboy
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posted on October 29, 2005 11:51:22 AM new
I'd love to do the shopping, but my wife won't let me!
I'd save us hundreds, because she spends tons of money on people I wouldn't bother sending a card!
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maggiemuggins
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posted on October 29, 2005 11:52:10 AM new
Well.. that's true.. lol
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Linda_K
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posted on October 29, 2005 11:57:07 AM new
LOL maggie....this will be an interesting thread, I'm sure. 
You said: he tells me to forget it if I don't do it then it won't get done...so of course I shop. I shop he he takes the credit..
So...your choices are to just do as he says...then all will know if he really means what he said...and you could just buy them a gift from only you. Why would that be so hard for you to do?
OR since it's probably money he has earned, then consider it IS a gift from both of you....he paid for it...you bought it. You've both done your part and All is well. 
My husband bought gifts himself for those he wanted to buy for. At times I did buy them gifts too....things we had discussed and both decided they'd like to have - because it was from both of us.
Imho, You're not going to change him.....
[ edited by Linda_K on Oct 29, 2005 12:04 PM ]
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classicrock000
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posted on October 29, 2005 12:02:35 PM new
Let me get this straight.Women love going to the mall to shop.Then you complain because your husbands get annoyed.NOW YOUR COMPLAINING you have to to the shopping....NOW I ASK YA..WHATS WRONG WITH THIS PIC??????????
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maggiemuggins
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posted on October 29, 2005 12:05:45 PM new
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Linda_K
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posted on October 29, 2005 12:06:36 PM new
Well...we know maggies likes to shop because she's shared that with us before.
But not ALL women like shopping....and I'm one of them. I sure there are others too.
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maggiemuggins
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posted on October 29, 2005 12:14:13 PM new
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Linda_K
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posted on October 29, 2005 12:23:41 PM new
That's one of the wonderful differences between men and women....and I personally love it.
Nothing like receiving a sexy nightware piece that HE'S picked out for you to wear for him.
But seriously maggie, I think if you want to give gifts to those people...then do so. And if he doesn't...then allow him to be the way he really feels.
I sometimes think it's our fault to begin with...just as it is when we wonder why our children do some things we'd rather they didn't. It's because WE allowed it to 'go that way' in the beginning....and after a number of years it's starts irrating some women. Understood.
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Linda_K
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posted on October 29, 2005 12:34:04 PM new
Okay...another thought came to mind.
Could it be that your anger with him on this subject is really masking a desire of yours to enjoy the holiday season together....shopping for gifts together....sharing a cup of coffee and watching the holiday festivities while doing so? But for some reason you can't just tell him that? I know for me sometimes when I appear angry about something...it's really masking something I WISH were/could be different. And sometimes when I'd share that with him, his answer/response would surprise me. It's just using a different approach...no 'nagging' but sharing your feelings...sharing what's important to you.
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piinthesky
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posted on October 29, 2005 12:35:24 PM new
'Or wrapping their own body part in a ribbon and wanting you to open that gift early'
I can imagine the card that goes with that gift.....it reads something like this.....Honey, this is what i think about shopping.
Whenever you have to buy his coworkers gifts, why don't you get them gag gifts from a sex shop and ONLY sign his name to the card. Imagine the look on his face when they open their gifts from him of penis enlargement pills or nipple clamps (S&M section) for the women.
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Linda_K
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posted on October 29, 2005 12:41:01 PM new
ROFL - Yea....THAT idea, piinthesky, would work for sure. Next year he'd be SURE and buy them gifts himself.  But IF maggies husband likes to just give out money....that might not look to good for the people he does that for.
Leave it to you to come up with THAT idea. LOL
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maggiemuggins
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posted on October 29, 2005 12:46:13 PM new
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piinthesky
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posted on October 29, 2005 12:58:57 PM new
Ok Maggie, then try this one. Mix the gifts up, like give the office girls the mens gifts like tools and fishing gear and then give the men the womens gifts like frying pans and perfume. Also just sign his name to the cards.....you could then play dumb and tell him that you goofed when wrapping the gifts. You do know how to play dumb, don't you?
ed to add; and if all else fails and he gets mad at you, then just start crying and he'll go away. Works everytime.
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Linda_K
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posted on October 29, 2005 01:02:44 PM new
I know maggie....there are many men who do just that. They think they are giving their love/showing their love to their families/wifes by being able to give them expensive gifts/things....when in fact what the family/wife wants IS their time.
Let him know that in some way. I bet he'll 'listen' to it much differently when you state that's what's most important to you. At least he'll probably give it some serious thought. Can't hurt.
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maggiemuggins
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posted on October 29, 2005 01:39:08 PM new
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Linda_K
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posted on October 29, 2005 01:55:11 PM new
and he gets mad at you, then just start crying and he'll go away. Works everytime.
MEN!!! Can't live with them....don't want to live without them. But grrrr....sometimes....
piinthesky - Men are supposed to comfort women when they cry. They're hurt for some reason....and it's their 'special someone's DUTY " to make it all better. What's the matter with you?
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piinthesky
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posted on October 29, 2005 02:26:51 PM new
When women cry, it's because they aren't getting their way with their men and they try to use it against them.....like it's their fault that they are crying.
Oh i'm sure that you'd like it if they just cried and sobbed right along with you while eating their comfort food of choice and then if they asked questions like; do these pants make my butt look fat and then cry some more? LOL
Ohhh Boo Hoo Hoo!
Are you getting all this, Maggie?
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Linda_K
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posted on October 29, 2005 02:33:32 PM new
I couldn't DISAGREE more, piinthesky.
IF they were the ones that were the cause of the woman crying...then they should apologize and get down on their knees and ask for her forgiveness.
Comforting the one you love is the way a relationship should work....anything other than that works against the relationship as a whole.
You deny her....she'll deny you. NEVER will your suggestion make a relationship better...only worse.
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maggiemuggins
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posted on October 29, 2005 02:39:07 PM new
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piinthesky
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posted on October 29, 2005 02:39:45 PM new
'IF they were the ones that were the cause of the woman crying...then they should apologize and get down on their knees and ask for her forgiveness.'
And if they weren't the cause of her crying, then what??
I've noticed that women have a tendency to cry for what appears to be absolutely no reason whatsoever.....why is that?
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piinthesky
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posted on October 29, 2005 02:44:01 PM new
I think you've about got it, Maggie. Where do i send the bill?
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maggiemuggins
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posted on October 29, 2005 02:49:12 PM new
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piinthesky
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posted on October 29, 2005 02:53:20 PM new
That's called 'impotent rage', Maggie and it solves nothing.
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piinthesky
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posted on October 29, 2005 02:59:51 PM new
Oh Maggie, lay your head down on my couch and tell the good Doctor what's really bothering you.
[ edited by piinthesky on Oct 29, 2005 03:01 PM ]
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maggiemuggins
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posted on October 29, 2005 03:01:01 PM new
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piinthesky
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posted on October 29, 2005 03:09:04 PM new
Whatever works.....i am a therapist of many talents and i can do whatever works for you.
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profe51
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posted on October 29, 2005 04:02:24 PM new
It's a long time till Christmas. Most men wonder what the rush is, that's all.
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Habla siempre que debas y calla siempre que puedas....
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kraftdinner
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posted on October 29, 2005 05:38:25 PM new
LoL Maggie & Pi!
"Let me get this straight.Women love going to the mall to shop.Then you complain because your husbands get annoyed.NOW YOUR COMPLAINING you have to to the shopping....NOW I ASK YA..WHATS WRONG WITH THIS PIC??????????"
I guess you all missed this post.
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